It is very important in adolescence to prepare a child for adulthood and instill in him the features of independence. He must have certain skills, be able to make decisions and be responsible for his actions.
Taking care of needs
An independent person knows how to perform the necessary skills: if necessary, wash clothes, buy groceries and cook dinner for yourself. He also cleans up the apartment, takes out the trash and tries to keep things in their places.
Find a way to motivate your child to maintain order in their personal space. Offer your teen his or her household chores. He can take out the trash every morning, buy bread and milk in the store after school, and in the evening participate in the cooking process or start the laundry on his own.
Gradually expand the scope of his responsibilities. Have your teenager participate in the house cleaning process. His responsibility can be the whole cleaning, if the parents are very busy, or some specific process: vacuuming, dusting, cleaning the floor. He must take care of his neat appearance on his own. At the same time, it is advisable that he iron his clothes and clean his shoes in the morning.
Behavior in society
An independent person knows how to pay utility bills, and will be able to call the master in case of emergency. In non-standard situations, an independent person will not be confused, but will actively look for a solution.
Ask your teen to pay utility bills sometimes. Create a home directory with emergency telephone numbers and acquaintances. Show your child all the phones and explain to whom he should call in emergency situations, or who of the acquaintances will give the necessary advice if they cannot get through to you.
Your goals
An independent person has his own views on life. He is not subject to other people's influence and clearly presents his immediate goals and plan of action. An adult finds the necessary information for the implementation of his plan and attracts others to help if the situation requires it. He is motivated to achieve results.
Encourage the child's desire to acquire new knowledge and skills. Help him create short-term plans and monitor the process of achieving them. Teach your teenager not to give up if something is not working out for him, but to look for other ways to achieve the goal.
Making decisions
An independent personality is characterized by the ability to take responsibility for their decisions on themselves. Such a person is able to adequately assess the situation and choose the most optimal solution for the given circumstances.
He is initially guided by his own point of view and only in difficult situations does he resort to outside help and advice. He understands how the social life of a person is arranged and is aware of the moral laws of society, has moral values and knows how to communicate.
Teach your child competent communication and ethics of behavior. Show by example how important it is to keep your word and make your own decisions. Give the teenager some freedom of choice, where he must make the decision. For example, he can buy himself stationery for school, and later clothes. Respect the child's opinion and encourage him to be independent.
