People lie very often. There are few people who would never lie a day. In most cases, this lie only embellishes reality. But there are people who always lie - whether it is necessary or not, whether it is beneficial to them or not.
What is a lie
Lying is hiding the truth. There are few people who are on duty with the question "how are you?" will begin to give a lengthy answer. Most likely, it will be one or two words "good", "normal", "bad", "so-so", etc. But the interested person is disingenuous in most cases. It is unlikely that he is actually interested in how the interlocutor is doing. This is just a courtesy, a tradition - when meeting, to be interested in each other's affairs. In this situation, both lie.
Lies are different. There are daily lies that all people, without exception, say. Such a lie is no longer perceived by people as such. For example, the usual phrase "how are you" is an example of an everyday lie. There is a lie in salvation - a liar tries to hide the truth, believing that a lie is better. There is a lie for good - then the truth is hidden so as not to harm other people.
There are many aspects of lying. One lie smoothly flows into another, a lie for good can grow out of everyday lies. From lies to salvation, daily lies can be born.
What is deceit
Falsity is the desire to create the wrong impression about events and facts. Deceit is contrary to universal human norms and rules, which are based on the need to have a correct understanding of society and circumstances.
The wrong impression about events is not always the result of deceit. Sometimes this is a consequence of underdeveloped thinking or inability to distinguish between what is desired and what is real, for example, children lie unconsciously.
A completely different case is pathological deceit. She has a belief in the reality of the fictional. In life, deceit is found in an atmosphere of hostility, competition and suspicion. Its assessment is possible only if the motives and reasons are correctly understood. Deceit is overcome as a result of upbringing, provided there is complete trust between the pupil and the educator.
How to test yourself for deceit
There are many tests on how to test yourself for deceit. Although, you can do without them. Ask yourself how often I lie. Simple steps will help you answer this question.
Get yourself a notebook or notebook. On each sheet, put down a day - how many days you spend research, and mark as many sheets. The longer you run your test, the more accurate the results will be.
Record conversations with colleagues, family, friends, etc. every day. It is not at all necessary to quote them in full, it is enough just to note the meaning of these conversations.
Notice phrases and moments when you lied. It is best to do this immediately after conversations, so that nothing is erased from memory. Not only mark your phrases when you lie, but also those in response to which you lie.
For the purity of the experiment, divide the sheet into several columns in which you note where and with whom you are talking. For example - home / work / public places or friends / colleagues / friends / relatives.
Analyze your notes: where, when, how and to whom you are lying. The analysis of your records is highly individual. You can consider yourself a deceitful person if your records contain more than 30% of unfounded lies.
