There are people who have their own opinion on every issue and never deviate from it. Others constantly doubt themselves, and it's easy to convince them of something. This quality sometimes really interferes with life, so you need to learn not to succumb to manipulation.
Instructions
Step 1
Usually people who are not confident in themselves are manipulated. Therefore, with the help of auto-training, get rid of doubts about your own worth. To do this, write down all the advantages and disadvantages on a piece of paper. To the merits include all the knowledge, skills, external data, valuable character traits, etc. The disadvantages include only the obvious ones - inability to argue, fear of communication, etc. Place half of the sheet describing your best qualities on your desktop, refrigerator, or any other place where you will see them often.
Step 2
Work with the deficiencies listed on the second half of the sheet. In front of each, write what you need to do to get rid of it. If you are afraid to communicate with strangers, create an account on the Internet. Electronic conversations are not binding, but they will help you get to know others better and not be so shy about communicating with real strangers. Do you not know how to object, do you agree with everything? Think you really have nothing to say? After all, you have accumulated some experience and definitely have your own opinion on each issue. And do not agree with what does not suit you. Express your position clearly, this way you will earn respect in the eyes of the interlocutor.
Step 3
If someone tries to manipulate you, explain to the person why you won't do what he asks. List all the tasks that are currently in the first place for you. Specify that this is urgent and you will not be able to put things off. This is usually enough to end the interlocutor's monologue.
Step 4
The hardest part is when your loved ones try to manipulate you. Everything is used here - affection, threats, blackmail, cunning. If you saw through the manipulator - tell him about it. Ask him to explain why he does it. Put him in the position of making excuses, then the next time the relative will think about whether it is worth trying to influence you at all. But remember that it is imperative to help your loved ones. Be sure to draw a line for yourself between explicitly manipulating against you and actually asking for support.
