From childhood, people experience jealousy. First, this feeling arises in relation to parents, then to friends, and then jealousy manifests itself in relation to a loved one. Arguments against the backdrop of jealousy can destroy any relationship. So why does this feeling arise and is it possible to somehow cope with it?
Jealousy in a certain sense can be inherited. The distant ancestors of mankind were guided by this feeling in order to conquer the cherished prey or eliminate a rival. Jealousy has come to mean, in a sense, competitiveness. And in the modern world, it is thanks to this feeling that people are forced to take care of themselves and be in good shape.
The very concept of jealousy for a loved one can be flattering. The fact that someone loves a person and is jealous of others makes him feel superior. But everyone is insanely annoyed when someone begins to interfere in personal affairs, be it control over mail, or a ban on communicating with the opposite sex.
According to some reports, the feeling arises from low self-esteem and lasts from early childhood. It is one thing when a child grows up surrounded by love and mutual understanding, and quite another if he constantly feels anxiety and does not feel any support from others. Jealousy often occurs in people who are insecure, lonely and deprived of a feeling of love.
Jealousy can lead a person to do terrible things. Failure to control your feelings often causes great harm to the people around you. You can call the feeling of jealousy a disease and in this case talk with doctors about methods of controlling the situation.
Jealousy can also be triggered by feelings of superiority over others. High self-esteem makes a person believe in the fact that people should pay special attention to him.
What steps can you take to suppress this feeling? For a start, you need to acknowledge the presence of such emotions. Emotions are not destructive, but actions can harm. Having realized jealousy, you do not need to deny this feeling, but recognize it and consult with a specialist.
People can like other people, and it would be strange if, after starting dating someone, the partner lost sympathy for others.
Instead of feeling burning jealousy, you should try to overestimate your attitude and find strength and words to express your positive emotions to others and learn how to compliment others. The ability to hide jealousy will greatly facilitate the life of loved ones and the person himself.
