In the modern world, more and more people believe that an extremely pragmatic approach to relationships is correct, believing that romance and nobility do not bring the expected results. However, not all girls are ready to completely abandon romantic dates and poetry in their honor.
Why romance is not honored?
There is a stereotypical opinion that romance is a thing of the past, and the current world is much more supportive of practical people who know exactly what they want and how to achieve it in the most rational way. This stereotype is also popular in relationships between a man and a woman, since it is believed that going to a restaurant and expensive gifts are more beneficial than writing on the asphalt, serenades under the window and other romantic options for courtship.
Romantics are characterized by daydreaming and disregard for the surrounding reality, which often leads to the inability to achieve real goals.
The reason for this point of view lies in the prevailing idea of romantics as people cut off from real life, not noticing its problems. Romantics in the eyes of the majority are those who were unable to solve serious issues, but hid their weakness and helplessness under a veil of sublimity and nobility. In principle, this view has its own reasons, since historically it happened that men who did not achieve great success in their careers or high social status tried to attract the attention of girls with the help of poetry and inexpensive bouquets. The problem is that women have always chosen the most promising partners, which is due not so much to practicality and self-interest, as to the struggle for existence.
Do you need a relationship without romance?
On the other hand, romantic relationships without romance, based on pure calculation, as a rule, do not give much pleasure to any of the participants, although from the outside they can look pretty pretty. The attraction of romantics at all times consisted in the fact that a man capable of expressing his feelings arouses in a girl more confidence and hope that her feelings will also not be ignored. Modern girls suffer from a lack of romance, but are afraid to admit it, since social status is often rated higher than feelings and emotions.
Psychologists believe that suppressing dreamy and uplifting moods can lead to nervous breakdowns and alcoholism, provoked by the dullness and monotony of life.
However, romantic behavior is not always associated with life's helplessness. Many men are capable of simultaneously being romantic in relationships and practical in life, and this is the version of modern romantics that attracts girls most of all. If a person is capable of beautiful courtship, but at the same time does not hang in the clouds, but knows how to correctly prioritize and achieve their goals, it is difficult to imagine a woman who will voluntarily give up romance in a relationship with him. Modern girls need romance no less than Turgenev's young ladies or beloved musketeers, but we must not forget that success and prosperity are no less important components of a good marriage than poetry and elevation of relationships.
