You've been together for quite some time. Your family is already experienced, self-sufficient, strengthened, and most importantly, there is still a flame of love in your relationship, of course, this is not the flame of passion that raged between you 7-10 years ago. Realizing this, you worry so that love does not cool down and your heart does not cool down. There is something to worry about, because according to statistics, a large percentage of divorces are among couples with ten years of experience.
There are several recommendations on how to maintain harmony in your family after so many years. And one of these rules is to monitor your speech. It is a common truth that you cannot shout at your spouse. In the family, it is unacceptable to use swear words that can cause offense and pain, cause anger and irritation. We often forget that there are other words that have truly magical properties. They heal grievances, smooth over shortcomings, cheer up, make you smile. Think about how often you use these words.
When they have more than one year of family life behind them, for some reason the spouses completely stop saying words of love to each other. This is a big mistake, because you can and should talk about your feelings. And to make it easier for you to start working in this direction, here are 10 tips for bringing warmth and tenderness back to your family:
- Give your spouse some unexpected surprise gifts at least occasionally. It can be any cute little thing, but subject to two prerequisites: the gift must be intended only for the spouse and must be presented for no reason.
- Give your spouse the opportunity to celebrate his birthday at the workplace with colleagues, help organize the celebration (prepare a signature dish for the festive table, buy the necessary products). Stay at home yourself during this time and look after the children.
- Remember your couple's birthdays and important dates. And no problems and difficulties can justify the absence of a gift. It is advisable to meet your spouse from work on this day, without warning him about it, to offer to take a walk and wander together into a cozy cafe.
- Look at your family photos more often together. The reason for this may be the recollection of some pleasant event in your life.
- Be sure to praise your spouse in front of strangers. But here it is important to know when to stop so as not to generate vanity in the second half.
- In case he has any health problems, go to the hospital together.
- Make sure that sex between you does not become a routine. And here all the ways are good.
- Show interest in their affairs, work, responsibilities, relationships with colleagues and management.
- During the day, call your spouse at work for no reason, just so that you can hear your own voice and find out how he is doing. Here, too, it is important not to overdo it, so as not to cause irritation, distracting him from solving important issues.
- When you are walking somewhere together, hold hands.
… and kiss, just kiss more often.
