Shyness and doubt often get in the way of making important decisions in life. To overcome these qualities and gain self-confidence, you need to work on yourself. This will help you gain a taste for life, peace of mind and joy.
If shyness and doubts interfere with achieving the result, then you need to work on yourself.
Think about situations where you were decisive.
Maybe they defended their rights in the store, or took the puppy away from the hooligans, or sent a resume for a vacancy that they did not even dare to dream of. Play this story in your head. Over time, you realize that even now you are not as defenseless as you think of yourself.
Failures happen to everyone. Don't think negatively of yourself, even if you fail. Repeat to yourself: “I'm lucky! I'm always lucky! . You can read a prayer. Negative thoughts will go away by themselves. Sometimes a difficult day is a signal that you can no longer postpone solving long-standing problems. Get yourself a small pocket talisman that will make you believe in your own strength.
Drive the shame away
If you broke firewood or got into an awkward situation. Remind yourself that only those who do nothing are not wrong. And in a few years you will not even remember about the current failure. Think about how to fix the situation, not how to punish yourself more severely.
Find people who support you
Think about who in your environment encourages ambition and scolds for indecision. And discuss your plans with this person. And those who urge you not to stick your head out and be more modest, do not listen. Most likely, your transformation is not beneficial to them. Timid people are easy to push around, but a confident person is not particularly commanding.
Make plans bolder
Sometimes there is a lack of interest behind indecision. For example, let's say you're going to ask for a promotion at work, but each time you postpone the conversation. And all because in fact you do not like your profession and you, in fact, do not care what position you serve in hard labor. Believe me, it is much easier to go to the goal if it is not a “must” imposed by society, but your own dream.
Take care of your physical condition
If from constant overwork and lack of sleep the head does not cook and the legs do not hold, it is difficult to be sure that you will cope with any problem. Take care and love yourself - this is very important.
Often, such a thing as "self-love" is limited to advice to take a bath or pamper yourself with new things. In fact, this is what it means to love yourself.
You don't compare yourself to anyone
Even with myself. And even if you get fat or earn less than before, this is not a reason to scold yourself. You know, if you personally need to change, you will. And there is simply no need to chase the approval of others.
Take care of yourself
In case of illness, go to bed and call a doctor, and do not crawl to work with your last bit of strength. At home, when you're tired, you relax instead of grabbing a mop or preparing a three-course meal.
Accept compliments easily
It's okay for people to be sympathetic to you. And kind words do not make you ashamed, they say, they are undeserved, or suspect every kind interlocutor of self-interest.
You know that not everyone loves you
And take it calmly, because you understand that it is impossible to please everyone. You don’t need it.
