A life scenario is a set of attitudes and goals that a person defines for himself in early childhood and follows them throughout his life. People are not aware of the extent to which their actions and desires are governed by the life scenario. And if they understood this and worked with him, they could effectively change their own lives in any direction.
The life scenario is divided into categories: "winner", "defeated" and "non-winner". The first category implies achieving the set goal and getting satisfaction. For example, a child decided that he would have a big family - he grew up, got married, has three children, he is satisfied. The second category is failure to achieve goals and lack of satisfaction. Those. the child has grown up, got married, but the wife is barren. Or the children were born sick, the person is unhappy, and the goal is not achieved, because no satisfaction. The third category is the "middling" scenario. Those. the child grew up, got married, and instead of five children, one was born, the wife cheats, but does not leave, - the person lives between victory and defeat, it suits him, although it does not satisfy.
And the main thing here is that the implementation of the scenario is determined not by chance, but by the subconscious choice of a person. The "winner", for example, will choose a healthy woman aspiring to a family as his wife. The "defeated" will choose the sick or unwilling to give birth. The "non-winner" will choose the one who has a tendency to cheat. None of them will understand that the outcome is his own decision.
The “losers” scenario is divided into three degrees of severity, depending on the outcome. The first degree is a series of small failures that constantly prevent a person from achieving their goals. For example, children do not obey, a slut wife, scandals with a mother-in-law. The second degree includes larger setbacks such as divorce or dismissal. The third degree leads to an irreparable result - suicide, imprisonment, mental illness. This is also an unconscious choice of a person.
Psychologically, the difference also lies in the fact that the “winner” operates with several opportunities to achieve the goal, the “defeated” puts everything on one opportunity (he does not see others), and the “non-winner” tries to avoid risk altogether.
It is worth remembering that a life scenario, whatever it may be, is not a sentence. It can always be changed, and psychologists working in the category of transactional analysis can help with this.
