You've probably noticed that the same unpleasant situations recur from time to time in your life. Either you find yourself betrayed by a friend, then for some reason you owe everyone, then relatives and friends load you with requests that you cannot refuse, and then you shirk and reproach yourself, but continue to behave flawlessly … As a rule, such cases are based on life a personality scenario that over and over again "forces" us to behave in a similar way and face disappointment, guilt, and even burnout.
Why do you need a personal life scenario
The life scenario gives us a hint on how to act in a difficult life situation, gives us a program of behavior that we have learned from childhood and we know it like the back of our hand. The script program of actions turns on automatically, works without failures. Compared to other forms of behavior, the script and the programs dictated by it have a number of advantages:
- It's simple.
- He's familiar.
- It is familiar and therefore well developed.
In other words, for the psyche to use a life scenario as a ready-made program of behavior is very economical and, as a result, convenient.
Why you need to get rid of the life scenario
Despite all the advantages of scenario programs, we have to admit that a life scenario does not help to solve problems. He points to a convenient, but by no means constructive solution to the existing difficulties. The principle of the script is based on the desire to avoid negative emotional states, to protect our psyche from traumatic experiences.
Running away from negative emotions does not solve the problem, our personality does not develop and does not become more adaptive.
How to overcome a personality's life scenario
It will not be possible to completely "get rid" of the life scenario. It is too firmly embedded in our psyche, backed up emotionally, its formation took place at the same time and in close connection with the formation of our personality.
However, the life scenario and the programs dictated by it lend themselves to conscious control and management.
The art of managing your script consists in the ability to every time, getting into a difficult life situation and being tempted to succumb to the usual actions, to make a conscious choice: "give a go" script actions or still do otherwise; succumb to habitual emotions, get involved in running in a circle, or stop, live this moment differently, live it exactly as you see fit, the way you choose.
The first step in overcoming your life scenario is to study it in detail. You can study your script programs on your own, observing yourself, analyzing the typical situations in life in which you find yourself, as well as your experiences and behavior in them. However, the life scenario of a person is usually poorly understood by us, so a faster and more effective way to study the scenario is to contact a specialist psychologist.
