All people have strengths and weaknesses. When someone “hurts for a living,” each person reacts differently: someone imperceptibly changes the conversation to another topic, and some get offended and stop communicating. How to deal with resentment?
Instructions
Step 1
Pay attention to yourself - what exactly offends you. Identify your sore spots. Take it for granted that there are no perfect people, and you may have weaknesses and shortcomings. Learn to love and appreciate yourself for who you are.
Step 2
Turn your flaws into strengths. Avoid unconstructive criticism and self-accusations. Many small flaws can be turned into personality traits. Later, they will be associated with others as individual traits that give charm to your personality.
Step 3
Shift your focus to achievement. Touchy people pay great attention to their shortcomings and other people's opinions. Develop your abilities and focus on personal success. Be the best in communication and value your own point of view.
Step 4
Do not be silent. Express your feelings openly. As a rule, resentful people keep their emotions to themselves and do not speak directly about their experiences. Nevertheless, in most cases, the interlocutor can offend unintentionally: an unpleasant statement to an ironic person seems to be a funny joke, and he is happy to meet such sarcasm in his address. In order for someone's offensive behavior not to pass into the system, you need to emphasize that such a manner of communication is unacceptable to you.
Step 5
Don't give the right to others to rule your life. If the abuser deliberately continues to create unpleasant situations and violate your interests, you must put him in his place or stop communicating.
Step 6
When it is impossible to avoid contact with bullies, learn to ignore and not take them seriously. Disagreements can be with loved ones, classmates or bosses. They need to find a special approach: somewhere in response to joke in a manner similar to them, and in some cases, just take for granted and "temporary delirium".
Step 7
Strive to react in different ways. Resentment, frustration, anger and withdrawal are the result of repetitive behaviors. If you are purposefully thrown off balance, take it as a game: you have received a certain challenge who will last longer and win. Remain calm and try to say something hurtful in response. Sometimes "a wedge is knocked out by a wedge".
Step 8
Learn to forgive. Under the influence of resentment, attention switches from one's life goals to the other person and his negative attitude. It is simply not profitable for you. Think good things and focus on fulfilling your plans. Let the offender be alone with his anger, and more important things await you.
