Any adequate person, upon hearing such a question, will say: “Why live with him? You need to break all ties with him. And it will be right! But there are such desperate situations when living with an alcohol dependent person is simply inevitable. It is upsetting that these people are unpredictable. Their gentle, kind mood is quickly replaced by outbursts of anger and violence. How to live with an alcoholic?
First you need to try to send such a person for treatment. Today, there are many ways to deal with varying degrees of alcohol addiction. These are coding, workshops, hypnosis, and more. But their effectiveness is always associated with the desire of the patient. If he does not recognize the disease and resists in every possible way, denies it, seeks excuses, then compulsory treatment is unlikely to give the desired result.
If the first method cannot be applied, then we turn to psychologists. Experts give some universal advice for those who are forced to live with an alcoholic.
- Never enter into dialogue with a drunken roommate. If he provokes you with questions, answer as calmly and monosyllabically as possible: "yes", "no", "I do not know." All serious issues should be discussed soberly. Try to put some conditions and restrictions on the use of alcohol.
- The presence of small children in a family with an alcoholic aggravates the situation significantly. After all, frequent scandals and its inadequate state can seriously injure the psyche of a child. During the next libations, try to leave the house with the baby. Time can be spent on playgrounds, in a park, a puppet theater or visiting friends and family. Of course, this is not a solution to the problem, but just ignoring it. But it will keep you and your children safe and comfortable.
- If finances and conditions permit, set up a small video camera in the room where all the "fighting" usually takes place. Then you can show the video to the alcoholic himself as evidence of his inappropriate behavior. Indeed, in the morning he may not remember his drunken performances. As a last resort, the record can be presented to the police.
- Sign up for a special psychological group where your “colleagues in misfortune” gather. There you will not only receive the support you need, but, perhaps, find a way out of your difficult situation. The world is not without good people. Believe it!
