Sometimes in our life there are situations when it becomes necessary to tell the truth, and often the hard-hitting truth. There are no uniform recipes for all occasions, but we will tell you some rules, guided by which you can tell the truth and at the same time not offend your interlocutor.
Instructions
Step 1
First of all, ask yourself the question: "What do you want to achieve by speaking the truth?"
You must understand for yourself that speaking the truth, you do not want to offend the person, but want positive changes to occur. You need the person to hear you and change their behavior.
Based on this position, and build your conversation.
Step 2
Since you want positive change, build your conversation in a positive way too.
Step 3
Avoid expressing negative emotions in your conversation. Do not shout at your interlocutor, much less insult him.
Step 4
Don't get personal. You must show the interlocutor that you do not like his actions, and not himself as a person. Thus, it should not be about the personality of the interlocutor, but about his behavior or a specific event.
Don't hurt your interlocutor's self-esteem.
Step 5
Arrange your speech in such a way that the interlocutor understands that you are not “picking on him,” but stating the existing facts. In doing so, you must be absolutely objective.
Step 6
Express your willingness to talk openly. Let the interlocutor understand that he can frankly explain to you the reasons for what happened.
Step 7
Be open about how you feel about what is happening, but never judge. For example: “I was very upset that you didn’t do it”, but not “You are a deceiver!”. Such an assessment will lead to a breakdown of contact and recrimination.
Step 8
Tell the interlocutor what you want from him in the future. Your speech should contain a wish, but not an order. For example: "Please don't do this next time."
Step 9
If you follow these simple rules, most likely your frank conversation will lead to a change in the situation in a positive direction, and you will maintain a good relationship with the interlocutor.
