Sometimes someone you know behaves disgustingly, and you need to tell him about it. His position may be aggressive or just not very correct, but he considers himself right. In this situation, you need to carefully approach the communication, and express everything that you think to your eyes, but it is important not to offend the person.
Instructions
Step 1
First analyze, and for what purpose do you want to tell him that he is wrong? If you think to humiliate a person, emphasize his shortcomings, prove your case, it is better to be silent. Self-affirmation at the expense of the other person is not considered a good motive. If you want to help, open a person's eyes so that everything goes better for him, then it is worth choosing a way of presenting information.
Step 2
The truth is not always present in the communication of people, many people are not ready to say what they think. But if you present it correctly, then everything will be fine. Don't talk about negative behavior in the face, just speculate out loud how you would have done, while focusing on what you would have done differently. At the same time, it is better to talk about cause-and-effect relationships, as if prompting a person that he can act in a different way, and, therefore, the result will be different from what happened before. For many people, this conversation is enough to make things right.
Step 3
If a person does something wrong, you can tell him about it directly. But you need to start with praise: first, express gratitude for something or emphasize its merits, and only then move on to criticism. For example, "you are an excellent conversationalist, it is pleasant to talk to you, but last time you were too impudent and in vain offended the person." The initial presentation is not negative, so the person begins to listen to the words, and the reaction will not be so violent, because the praise is pleasant to anyone. But here it is important not to flatter or lie, the beginning of a phrase or dialogue should be truthful and sincere.
Step 4
Help the person see themselves from the outside or feel the negative side of their actions. Just ask how he himself would feel if he was told the same words or he was in a similar situation. Talk about how the people around you feel when someone misbehaves. A person can conceive and reconsider his position, while it is possible to build a dialogue calmly, without specific examples, but everything will be clear.
Step 5
So that the person is not offended by the truth, start playing with him, offer two news: the first is good, the second is bad. Let him decide which one to start with. The negative will be about the fact that he is behaving incorrectly, come up with a positive one yourself. In contrast, the truth will seem bitter, but not too offensive. In this case, it is only important to say a few phrases, and not go into long details. Just honestly say that the person acted badly, and the details should be told only if the interlocutor wants to continue the discussion.
