Sometimes it is more difficult to tell the truth than to lie for years … But if you do not want to build relationships with people around you on lies or moral principles do not allow you to lie, you still have to tell the truth.
Instructions
Step 1
You lied for a long time and now it's time to tell the truth? You will not be envied. It is very difficult to decide to tell the truth, when a lie was the only salvation and the most optimal solution in any situation. But if you are tired of hiding and are mentally prepared to open a person's eyes to the real state of affairs, then half of the work has already been done. Calm down and prepare yourself for the negative reaction of the interlocutor: honesty sometimes brings people a lot of mental pain.
Step 2
The harsh truth can cause not just a negative reaction, but a whole storm of emotions. So be prepared for anything. A man can get into a fight and start waving his fists, a woman can cry or throw a tantrum. Don't say "Calm down", "Stop crying", "Don't be nervous" - these words will infuriate anyone if the person is already on edge. Wait a while. Do not try to say something in your own defense, a person always needs a few minutes to recover from a shocking news. It is simply unreasonable to hope for a constructive dialogue at this time - they will not hear you, not because they do not want to, but because negative emotions are now gushing over the edge.
Step 3
After the interlocutor comes to his senses, the initial tension subsides, you can continue the conversation. No need to press on a sore corn and constantly repeat the story of your deception. Better talk about what prompted you to do this. Explain the circumstances that caused this. It is not for nothing that there is such a concept as "a lie for salvation." Then make it clear to the person that despite the current mutually unpleasant situation, he is still dear to you, you are not going to betray him or break the connection with him. Apologize sincerely for your wrongdoing and try not to hurt your loved one anymore.
