How to stop loving? Every unhappily in love person asks himself this question. If you think all day about someone who doesn't reciprocate, it's time to start working on yourself so that you can free yourself from thinking about this person as soon as possible.
Unhappy love happens to most of us at least once in our lives. Regardless of whether this other person was mutually in love or didn't respond to your feelings from the beginning, thinking about him will not do you any good.
Do you constantly look at your phone in the hope that he (she) will finally call? You cannot sleep because you are still thinking about this person? Feeling unhappy and not seeing meaning in life? These are typical symptoms of love. Instead of continuing to contemplate the unrealizable, start letting go.
1. Rationalization of the state
Try to look at your problem from the outside, without emotion. Realize what happened and stop idealizing this person. After all, no one is perfect. Also, remember the moments when your courtship was rejected in order to stop living the illusion of a common relationship.
2. Acceptance of the situation
During a crisis, many are looking for guilt in themselves, which even worse affects the psyche. Instead, try to accept what happened and come to terms with the situation. This is a necessary step to feel emotionally stabilized and to close this chapter.
3. Stop being interested in this person's life
Immediately after breaking up, we cannot accept the sudden end of contact. We still think about this person and wonder what is going on in her life. Checking your ex-partner's social media profiles is a habit that needs to be dealt with as soon as possible. Otherwise, you will still live the life of that person. If you find it difficult to fight this habit, remove the contact from your friends list. It is important not to be interested in it from mutual acquaintances.
4. Appreciate yourself
Instead of focusing on this person, take care of yourself. Understand that the most important thing in your life is your relationship with yourself. Above all, value yourself. Write down a list of your strengths on a piece of paper to see how many you have. High self-esteem is the foundation for building healthy relationships with others in the future.
5. Set yourself new goals
The next stage is the beginning of a new chapter. To do this, you need to set new goals for yourself. For example, take on a dream that you have been putting off for a long time. Now you have more time for yourself, and it's time to use it for self-development. It will strengthen you mentally and give you satisfaction. Think about what you want to achieve.
Shifting the focus of attention allows you to forget faster and spend less time on frustration. It can be a job, a new hobby, travel, you can just put things in order in the house, disassemble old things.
6. Surround yourself with loved ones
During a crisis, our environment plays a key role. Communication with loved ones who want the best for you is the foundation. Meet with them as often as possible, instead of sitting alone and mourning unhappy love.
To raise self-esteem, you can go on a couple of dates, make new acquaintances, but not with the aim of starting new relationships. Until the old love lets go, the new relationship will not be happy. Dating allows you to raise your own self-esteem, to understand that you are interesting to the opposite sex.
