Unfortunately, social life and human psychology for some individuals remains a mystery. To understand how life works, you need to debunk myths and get rid of common misconceptions inherent in humans.
Success misconceptions
Some people fail to achieve their goals because they misunderstand the path to success. If they understood what they were wrong, it would be easier for them to build their own career or organize their own business.
One of the common myths is that to be successful in your career, you need to study well. Unfortunately, outstanding academic achievement does not guarantee continued professional success. Sometimes an excellent student achieves much more mediocre results in work than a C grade. The thing is that knowledge and skills alone are not enough for striving up the career ladder. No less, and sometimes even more, such personal qualities of a person as perseverance, enterprise, sociability are important.
It is also a common misconception that visualization helps you achieve your goals. There is a grain of truth in it, and it consists in the fact that a mental representation of the final result helps a person to determine his desires. Regular visualization can even delay the fulfillment of your dreams. With repeated use of this technique, your brain perceives what you want as a fait accompli and stops generating ideas that can help you solve urgent life problems.
Your mind believes that you have already got what you wanted, which means that there is no need to stimulate work.
Another myth that needs to be exposed is the undeniable advantage of positive thinking over negative thinking. An optimistic attitude has many advantages, but one of its disadvantages is a one-sided view of the world and sometimes bias. An inability to critically assess a situation and an unshakable belief that everything will be fine can prevent a person from coping with their problems. A careless attitude towards life and inevitable disappointment can harm an individual. It is important to learn to see all sides of events and appreciate any of your moods.
Misconceptions about relationships
Relationships between people could be more constructive if some individuals got rid of the standards sitting in their heads.
One of the common misconceptions about couple or team relationships is that conflict destroys ties. On the contrary, the absence of controversy prevents people from expressing their point of view and expressing their own opinion. In this case, dissatisfaction with any factor grows until it assumes the scale of a real disaster. While a quarrel can be settled and given a constructive grain, an underlying conflict cannot be regulated and eliminated. Another question is how people argue and quarrel.
Undoubtedly, the scandal with the transition to personalities and assault destroys love, respect, and friendship. However, this is a different topic.
Both women and men are sometimes inclined to believe that a child who appears in their family will strengthen relationships, increase love between spouses and prolong the marriage. Sometimes it happens exactly the opposite. With the birth of a baby, parents can become distant from each other if you have unreasonable expectations about this. For the first time after there is one more member in your family, the level of happiness can drop dramatically. Be prepared for difficulties, assign roles, discuss possible problems, but do not trust that the child will save your marriage.
Another common myth associated with life in society is that most people are critical. Some individuals are very worried about what others will say or think about them. It is important for them to create a favorable impression. In fact, people pay much less attention to your mistakes and mistakes. The point is not that others are kind and condescending. They just have their own thoughts, problems and feelings. Believe me, they think much less of you than you sometimes think, and they will not whisper behind your back for years because of your major offense and remember how you got into a stupid situation.
