At work, with friends and at home, we are surrounded by many situations when it is necessary to express our point of view and convince people that we are right. Often this turns into an argument, and then into a quarrel, but to prevent this from happening, you need to remember a few golden rules of persuasion.
Instructions
Step 1
In a dispute, the one who does not try to tie it wins, so try to negotiate peacefully and in no case tell the interlocutor that he is wrong. This will only provoke a defensive backlash, and your discussion will escalate into an aggressive ping-pong game.
Step 2
Do not try to forcefully convince your opponent that you are right, for example, say "I know better" or "Just believe me." Instead, show your openness and goodwill by sincerely trying to listen to the other person.
Step 3
Don't interrupt, don't yell, and generally try to conduct the conversation in a way that makes you speak the least. Your thought should be clear and concise, but as soon as you enter into lengthy reasoning, you will lose all points and your own confidence.
Step 4
Ask your opponent questions that he can only answer in a positive way. Your remarks should interest the person, relate to the sphere of his personal interests. In short, try to model sentences in such a way that your point of view appears in a pleasant form for the interlocutor.
Step 5
If in some question you were wrong, then admit it without hesitation. You will be surprised, but your openness and willingness to admit your mistakes can play into your hands in the end.
Step 6
Always argue only with what you really know and understand. There is no need to talk about what you do not know, since one question is essentially asked, and you will sit in a puddle.
Step 7
Only say the main things and avoid unnecessary details. The more concise and understandable your speech is, the more likely it will reach the interlocutor in the correct form and will not raise unnecessary questions. Another danger of long monologues is the loss of interest in the opponent, this should also be avoided.
Step 8
When giving specific facts, do not be afraid to show feelings and personal attitude towards what you are talking about. Stories from your life, how you first met this, or some illustrative cases will do. But don't go overboard with them, it's important to find the right balance.
Step 9
Your effective presentation plays a huge role in persuasion. Speak clearly and loudly enough for everyone to hear you. Gesture, make accents with your voice on the most important. Walk around the room, but do not loom, this can be annoying. Don't distract your interlocutor with objects, so keep your hands free. The most you can take is a pen. Good luck in convincing!
