Everyone was faced with such an uncontrollable feeling as resentment. In some cases, it can be useful, for example, it helps to understand yourself. But, more often than not, it destroys relationships between loved ones. It is impossible to never be offended, but there is a chance to learn to take offense correctly.
So, grudges that will not lead to anything good. First, you should never be offended in order to be paid attention to. At first, everyone will apologize to you and feel sorry for you, but over time everyone will get tired of your whining, and you will be left alone with your invented resentment.
Secondly, you do not need to look for hints in the words and actions of others that secretly show your shortcomings. If it seems to you that you do not suit those around you, then this is not about them, but about your suspiciousness and low self-esteem. Remember, people have much more serious things to do than think about how bad you are.
But there are times when the offense is justified and serious. In this case, you need to be able to deal with it. First of all, you need to remember that a loved one does not offend you on purpose, and sometimes you need to understand and accept this. Remember for yourself how many times you have offended people close to you through your own inattention or concern.
Try talking to your abuser. Explain to him that he hurt you and unpleasantly, try not to scream and not be hysterical. Talk about your feelings calmly and leave the person alone to think about their actions, believe me, he will make the right choice.
