Even if you don't have serious enemies, people who are annoying get in the way of almost everyone. And if there is an obvious enemy, then life can turn into hell. The Christian faith invites us to love the enemy, this recipe is very ancient and tested by many, so it is worth treating it with attention.
Instructions
Step 1
Change your perception of the person first. To do this, you need to consciously look for advantages in it, without trying to find shortcomings in parallel. The positive traits of the enemy can be written down on paper, special attention should be paid to those circumstances that are very vivid and obvious to everyone. They will be useful to you in the future.
Step 2
Next, write a letter, which is optional. In it, you need to turn to your future friend and sincerely tell the imaginary interlocutor your pain, which was associated with your relationship. The letter should be kept in order to be able to refer to it if you suddenly have to explain.
Step 3
Then think about what the relationship taught you. Agree that without this person you would not have received a very valuable experience and thank your former enemy mentally.
Step 4
Then write all the grievances on paper, you can cry, and then burn these notes, mentally repeating the phrase "I forgive you." You need to imagine that you paint over all the evil that was between you with white paint. True forgiveness helps you start a new conversation.
Step 5
Forgive yourself too, this will make it easier for you to be positive about the person. Often people live in confrontation only because they themselves have done something bad and provoked a negative attitude. Acting kindly to a former enemy often changes the situation drastically, not because you will be better treated. The situation is changing because being satisfied with your deed, you yourself will become better to relate to the person - and he will feel it.
Step 6
Then you need to take the most decisive step. Call your ill-wisher and tell him that, even though Forgiveness Sunday is still far away, you want to ask for forgiveness and make up for all the grievances. Explain that tensions are tormenting you and you want to change them. Mention the well-known virtues of a person (you wrote them down) and that this person taught you a lot. Thank your opponent and try to end the conversation. Few people will not be touched by such a conversation. Even if it doesn't work out the first time, your relationship will improve and become easier.
So you can not only forgive and love the person, but also change his attitude in you. But it's still easier to love those who reciprocate.
