In the modern world, there are many reasons for stress and neurosis. And one of them is the overestimated expectations from oneself, loved ones and from the surrounding reality. With such inferences, a person, without knowing it, inflicts huge damage on his own state of mind.
It is natural for a person to strive to improve the life of his family and his own. But at the moment when this desire develops into an unreasonably high expectation of benefits, this is where difficulties begin with psychological comfort and peace of mind.
In order to bring your state of mind into harmony with yourself, you need to be aware of whether he himself corresponds to the level of his needs? Dreams of a higher position will turn out to be ineffectual if the qualifications of the employee do not allow it. It's hard to become a millionaire without making any effort to achieve your dreams. This is where the catch lies. To find what you want, you need to either make an effort or face reality.
When a fictional world, a world of fantasies and illusions collides with reality and dreams collapse, then a prolonged depression arises, from which not everyone can get out on their own.
Most often, people with an inferiority complex suffer from high expectations syndrome. Due to external attributes, they want to gain self-confidence. In such cases, not getting what he wants, a person is inclined to transfer his negative state to his husband or wife, constantly reproaching, finding fault, reproaching for insignificant trifles. But at the same time they completely forget that they are not the standard of ideality either.
Harmony within us depends only on our own perception of reality. There are two options: either to demand from your life what, in fact, you are not yet ready for, or to perceive life as it is, and only then will there be peace of mind. It is necessary to understand, in order to receive from life what you really want, you need to correspond yourself. This is one of the most important and in some way painful stages of finding peace with oneself.
You can endlessly torment and suffer from what you do not have, but it is better to be able to be grateful for what you have already achieved, and then strength and opportunities for new achievements will appear. First of all, wanting to achieve something, you need to work on yourself. Go to courses, sign up for a gym. Self-development is one of the ways to calm down and understand yourself.
