The warmth and help given by the parents are irreplaceable. Why sometimes overprotectiveness can spoil the life of both children and the parents themselves?
The parental instinct lays in a person an irresistible desire to take care of his child from the first days of birth. A newborn baby is naturally completely helpless and cannot survive without help. As you grow older, parenting is needed less and less. The child gradually learns to dress independently, take care of his hygiene, learn to stand up for himself in conflicts. In adolescence, a person begins to form that character and those social skills that will remain with him for life. And at this age, a person needs parental help and advice: "talking like a man" between a son and his father, passing on "feminine tricks" from a mother to a daughter. In a word, parental help does not leave us until the ripe old age of the parents themselves.
What can be the result of overprotection on the part of the parents and how does this happen?
Early age threats.
At an early age, overprotection is far more harmful than anything else. To an unintelligent child, too caring parents put into the head the idea of "you are the best with us!" It was then that loving mother and father rush headlong to the child at the first slightest danger or whim. The early age (0-7 years) of an overprotected person is overshadowed by the difficulties of socialization and parental mental abuse. However, psychological abuse often develops into physical abuse. Oddly enough, physical violence against their own children is most often used by single mothers raising children without fathers.
Such a child goes to school with a system of values established in his little world: mother is the center of the Universe. Mom punishes and praises, mom can do anything. I am the best, because my mother said so.
At school, such a child is in for a terrible shock: in the class there are two dozen more of the same who are "the best." Here, the child is faced with a harsh reality: having practically no communication skills and behavior in society, he may well become an outcast of the children's collective. The opposite situation is also possible: having formal authority in the class (for example, as an excellent student), an overly patronized student has no real authority and friends among peers.
Teenager and beyond …
In adolescence, the crisis of socialization deepens: a person simply has not learned the basics of relationships. It is at the age of 14-18 that a complete lack of responsibility, weak-willedness, lack of initiative is manifested. After all, "loving" parents from childhood suppressed any initiative, they also solved all problems, albeit frivolous.
In the worst case scenario, an adult child can become a burden for parents until their last days. Without starting a family, without a job, such a person will remain forever with his beloved mom and dad. And this is not a psychological abstraction. Take a look around: there are such families in every home.
