Everything in the world is governed by the law of cause and effect. Press the button, you will get the result. I just want to know on what and at what time to influence in order to achieve the desired effect. Indeed, sometimes we cannot force ourselves, motivate ourselves in the right way for a certain action, which, it would seem, is wholly and completely in our power. Why is this happening? Perhaps we do not know ourselves well enough and are trapped in an illusion about what we really want or how we can achieve it.
Ownership
The owner is a gentleman. Who pays - he chooses. All adults are aware of how this world works. But who owns us? This is a very interesting question to ask about many things. Who owns the mountains, lakes and valleys? It is easy to find an answer to some of these, confirmed by all sorts of formal documents that have legal force. But let's be honest, these are conventions. Do you own this mountain? Seriously? Congratulations, wonderful property is on the way!
So who is the owner of the father himself? Only he himself, you answer. Except for cases that fall under the category of "no king in the head." But it happens (I'm sure everyone has experienced this at least once) that a person not only loses control over himself, but does not understand the forces that prevail over him. Which he is not able to ignore, thus avoiding their impact on his behavior. What is it about? The list is quite extensive. These are instincts, programs laid down by nature, and natural needs and inclinations that a person, even a very middle-aged person, may not be aware of for the time being, until they suddenly (and well, if appropriate) make themselves felt. And also - the limits that absolutely all people have, but only some of us like to pretend that they are a kind of exception, "inhuman person." In addition to the above, these are, of course, the desires of the soul. Genuine aspirations, that which can make us truly happy. Sometimes we do not pay attention to this in ourselves, or do not want to notice, but we cannot escape from it. It affects us. And, fortunately for us, this is one of the reasons why sticks suddenly appear out of nowhere in our wheels, if we suddenly decide to move in the opposite direction.
Instructions for use
A person is not a vacuum cleaner to read the instructions for use and know everything about the peculiarities of his "life", about his possible whims and how to deal with them if necessary. Likewise, we cannot “contact the supplier” in the event of any difficulties. Of course, it's great if we have experienced parents, an older generation who is able to help us by sharing this experience. Of course, much more often everything turns out to be not at all so simple. Our complexity is due primarily to our uniqueness. After all, there is no other person like you. This means that there cannot be a single recipe, unlike vacuum cleaners, when one document equally describes the entire multi-thousand series. After all, they are identical.
Recognize it as your undeniable advantage and just remember it at the right time.
Who runs the ball
So what drives us? If we strive to achieve our goals, then why sometimes we do nothing for this, or do we do it through force, feeling our own resistance? Again, everyone had moments when he understood that he was only hindering himself from receiving what he declared to be desirable. Why is this happening? It is unlikely that anyone will be surprised that our psyche contains not one, but several different subpersonalities, goals, the preferences of which are sometimes opposite. Therefore, undoubtedly, it is very beneficial for us to know ourselves as accurately as possible. Everyone, even the darkest nooks and crannies of your subconscious. After all, in order to change some belief, you must first realize it. Without this, it is impossible to gain wholeness, when there are no problems with self-management.
How can this be achieved? Reading smart books is unlikely to help here, because they are not written about you personally, but contain some generalizations that you can only partially apply to yourself. (In the same way that allergy-tested products are not 100% safe, because they have not been personally tested on you. J) The way is simple - observe. Observe yourself and your life, because it is in no small measure the result of the creativity of each of us. And reflects the attitude towards oneself, others, the world - a wide variety of internal attitudes. On this path, many surprises await us, and it cannot be called short. Sometimes it is very difficult, sometimes a little easier, but as you move forward, life undoubtedly improves - an inner feeling of life and oneself, and this, as you know, is the main quality of life.
For many, it becomes a revelation when they first learn the fact that true, unconditional love is passionless. It's simple: there is a feeling, but there is no fire that devours you. And this is exactly the property with which you need to observe yourself: no judgments or outbursts of emotions - only facts, obtaining information. At the same time, it is important to rejoice when you learn something new about yourself. Especially unpleasant. After all, it hurts, and support is doubly necessary here. The call to rejoice is not empty, there is a reason: truth is power, truth is life-giving, it is impossible to win without truth. "Hooray! Now I know!" - this simple thought can become an anesthetic pill.
An unscientific approach
Yes, our uniqueness and ability to change over time makes us very difficult creatures. But also interesting. Many people love hard science. They like to measure and organize everything. It's easier this way, it's more understandable. It is better to exercise control, to manage. Divide and Conquer is a timeless principle that can be viewed in very different contexts.
So, it is completely inapplicable to an individual person. If not some third person wants to control this person, but this person himself. Here, the approach is the other way round - completely unscientific. Why? Because we are primarily irrational beings. Perhaps many will disagree with me. Especially men. Especially for men. But try to answer the question "why" when you choose something not on the basis of the outweighing scale with advantages, something that is most beneficial for you, but simply something that suits you best, something that can please you, make you happy. Why? Just because. Because why. There is no answer, there will not be and cannot be. Hooray! After all, this only means that we are still people, not robots, and in addition to a cold mind, we have a living and warm (and someone even hotter)) heart.
Put yourself together, piece by piece, and then from the designer given to you at birth, you can get a wonderful figure. After all, each of the particles wants what is good for you. But he understands it in his own way. And for good to happen, such as you understand it, you need to accept each of these parts, thank for the help and explain how you want it to work.
An exciting adventure
Time. Time. Time. Sometimes we are so afraid of the action of the passage of time that we forget how much good it brings us. We are afraid to grow old, to miss something, we are afraid of speed, which is "too much" for us. And this fear is not unfounded, so it is never too late to switch to the "slow" mode, because - it has been proven - you drive quieter, you will continue.
But how much good the action of time gives us, without taking into account the new events themselves that are happening to us! This is depth. Development of action, denouement and result, or simply a new quality of life. Time is a great tester. What turns out to be sufficiently "durable" deserves the right to continue its life, it only gets better from its influence. Just like wine. Indeed! Look at people who love each other, and have been together for many years - they love only more over time. No, this is not fantasy. It happens. Time pulls out many things. And the good ones too. And when you know, your heart fills with the truth, and no one can take your happiness away from you. You know that you are loved, and will be, no matter what happens. You know who you are and who you will always be in your essence, no matter what happens. You know that life is an amazing adventure, and no matter what happens next, it can't change.
Finally leaving others alone and taking care of ourselves, we all learn to better manage ourselves. At the same time, in each of us to the end, a certain mystery remains, an incomprehensible mystery, like a reduced copy of the mystery of life itself. Knowing and understanding ourselves better, we can more easily manage our resources the way we would like. Maybe you can get to the bottom when there are no more surprises and hidden places left in yourself, but, in my opinion, it’s not a pity for my whole life to find out: how deep is your rabbit hole?
