You can control others in several ways. The most productive one is to establish companionship. For a good person, people are ready for a lot. The second way is to take the position of a child. Then it will be possible to control others with the help of affection and compliments. The third way is to stand head and shoulders above those around you. But it is not always effective, since what is said in an imperative tone often causes a negative reaction.
Instructions
Step 1
If you've decided that companionship is the best way to manage people for you, learn to smile genuinely. Look openly into the eyes of the interlocutor. Do not start a conversation with business questions, first, take an interest in the mood of your opponent, talk about the weather, traffic jams, etc. This will relax the interlocutor, show that you are disposed towards him. Continue the conversation in a friendly tone, ask if you can switch to "you". This is a very important point. Once people start treating each other with ease, they become more relaxed and willing to make concessions. On a subconscious level, “you” is equal to “friend”. And friends are not made obstacles and try to help them in everything.
Step 2
If the child's position is closer to you, you need to act differently. Praise the interlocutor by praising his character and appearance in every possible way. Say how smart he is, what a stylish suit he has, an expensive pen, etc. The person will feel superior to you, while you will endear him to yourself. He will try to help you in all matters. After all, you so sincerely admire his excellent qualities that he himself believed in them and simply cannot but show them.
Step 3
The third way to influence others is to prove to everyone that you are demanding and have the right to do so. This behavior will appeal to those who are used to achieving everything with strength and firmness of character. Usually, top managers, teachers who are accustomed to the subordination of schoolchildren, domestic tyrants, etc., influence people in this way. This method is effective only until the moment when a stronger person is not found who will not allow pressure on himself. Then a conflict will begin, which is unlikely to help build productive communication. Although at the level of small services, arrogant behavior often works. But people who are too demanding of others often lose friends and become outcasts in the work collective.
Step 4
To influence people, you can choose any one tactic, or alternate all three. The latter is more productive. Depending on the situation, you can be a friend, a child, or a strict adult. Then you can get everything you want from others.
