An easy and pleasant relationship in a couple is very convenient at the initial stage, and then one of the two begins to want more, but sometimes he is faced with a lack of understanding of the other, with a reluctance to go further and take responsibility for what is happening. In this case, it is necessary to change the interaction, and the development of the situation may be different.
Talking honestly about the future
Start by talking honestly with your partner about what you want. Say that today's relationship is very entertaining, but that is not enough for you. Don't be afraid to talk openly about expectations, intentions, and the future. Express your position and wishes, and see the reaction. The person may answer you honestly, but be prepared that he may declare that he is not ready for more. Sometimes people laugh it off or try to take the topic in a different direction. But remember, the longer you put off a decision, the faster your frustration builds up.
If you cannot speak, if you are scared, uncomfortable, or simply unable to speak, write a letter. Just take paper or sit at your computer and express everything on a sheet. Write in detail, explaining everything you think and feel. And do not forget to say about the future, express your desires. Then give the letter to your partner, but give him the opportunity to read it all alone. It will take him some time to think things over. Do not rush him with an answer, but also do not let your message be ignored.
Limiting communication
If you demand something, talk about desires, but at the same time do nothing else, all this begins to seem unimportant. For example, you are not satisfied that you do not plan a common future, do not make plans for future life, and there is no talk of living together. These circumstances hurt you, you talk about it, but do not change your behavior, then nothing will move. Start to reduce the time of communication with your partner, deny him something, limit opportunities. Make it clear with your behavior that you are not ready to put up with what is happening anymore. Sometimes you should even stop agreeing to intimacy or meetings in order to confirm your position.
The reaction to your behavior can be of two types: he can change his mind and begin to satisfy your desires, or he can withdraw and simply close the relationship. Be prepared for any outcome. If he decides to leave, rejoice, because you did not spend another couple of years of your life on him, and then he would have left anyway. If he begins to take the initiative, makes some important steps, do not forget to encourage him for the movement. Tell him that he is the best, that he was not mistaken, that everything will be fine.
Break in a relationship
Sometimes it is necessary to part in order to understand that it is very bad without each other. This is a very painful process, but without it, not every couple can get off the ground. In this case, it is necessary to explain that it is time to change everything, and since there are no such plans, you need to learn to live separately. Loneliness can stimulate a partner, he will understand that he has lost, realize the mistake and return, but there is a possibility that, having felt freedom, he will simply disappear forever. Whether to decide on this or not, everyone thinks for himself. But it is infinitely impossible to live and endure, and someday you will have to make a choice between a happy future or a sad present.
