A person strives for love and happiness. However, sometimes the reason for the breakup of a wonderful couple is the fear of a serious relationship. There are many reasons for the appearance of such fear, but most often it is a negative experience of relationships, an unwillingness to lose freedom and be responsible for someone. To overcome such fear, you need to find the reasons for its appearance.
Childhood fear
Fear of a serious relationship very often begins to form in childhood. If your parents did not get along well with each other, and you often hear that they are keeping the family just for the sake of the children, you, as an adult, will most likely begin to avoid serious relationships and marriage.
To overcome such fear helps the realization that not all family unions are unhappy, and the relationship in a couple depends only on the lovers themselves. If you have deep and sincere feelings for each other, strive to find a compromise and negotiate, your family life can turn out much better than your parents.
Your friends can be a great therapy in this case. Choose a married couple who have lived a significant period of time, who seems to you as friendly and in love as possible. Visit them more often, learn from them relationships, manifestations of love.
Family or freedom
Men are most susceptible to the fear of losing their freedom in serious relationships, however, there are also women who do not want to commit themselves. The benefits of a strong relationship can help overcome this fear.
Serious relationships are about stability, care, support and confidence. A man in such a relationship has the opportunity to focus on his career and building the future, he stops spending time on small household chores, and money on short-term and dubious pleasures. Serious relationships give a woman a reliable and serious life partner, as well as the opportunity to realize herself as a mother.
Both man and woman in a family union gain more than they lose. And most importantly, it is not at all necessary to be deprived of freedom in a serious relationship. A family union based on mutual respect and full trust does not limit the freedom of partners. And these relationships are often stronger than those built on total control.
What about the future?
There are also people who are afraid of starting a serious relationship because of the fear of the future. What if nothing happens again? What happens if the husband cannot support his family? Will everyday life kill feelings? These and other questions torment many lovers who do not dare to move to another stage of the relationship.
The solution in this case is one thing - to try. You will begin to live together and you will see that many fears are contrived, and most problems have solutions. The fear of losing love under the influence of gray everyday life also has no basis. Feelings do not disappear if the spouses value the relationship, devote time to each other, arrange surprises. Do not allow serious relationships to become commonplace - go for walks, give nice gifts, talk about love. And then your life together will turn into a romantic trip.
