There are relationships that are considered friendly, but at the same time, one partner experiences completely unfriendly feelings. How to behave in such a situation?
Sometimes you meet a situation in life when a guy and a girl are on friendly terms. They really do not cross the line of friendship, are very close emotionally, share their innermost secrets and treat each other very reverently and respectfully.
Only a little later it is discovered that one of them is simply in love. It can be both a guy and a girl. And at this stage, the relationship takes on a completely different shade. The side in love cannot confess to another person his feelings, he is afraid of them. Sometimes these feelings are hidden because the friend is in a formal love relationship. Or the loving side appreciates this sublime friendship so much that it is simply afraid to ruin everything with recognition, because after it everything will be different.
I must say right away that in our situation there are several substitutions. Such a relationship is inherently loving, despite its platonic nature. They have all the signs of a love relationship: a strong emotional attachment of a lover, jealousy, constant thoughts about the object of love. There is also often hidden sexual overtones in such relationships.
And the object of love himself feels that special attention is paid to him and prefers not to notice it. Does not recognize the loving nature of relationships and calls them friendship for several reasons. First, he receives emotions and feelings of adoration and love from another person. This in itself charges, gives energy, because it is pleasant when you are idolized. And, secondly, hiding behind words about friendship, our object of adoration has every right not to be responsible for these manifestations.
If a person is in a loving relationship, he should, at a minimum, take care of the partner. And if there seems to be no love relationship, then he does not owe anything to anyone. A bit consumerist, but very comfortable.
This is most often the case. One in such a relationship gives more emotional warmth, care, attention, and the other accepts.
And the final touch for sketching our friendly relations - the loving side secretly (from itself including) hopes that someday the relationship will really move from friendship to love.
How to be in such a situation?
If you find yourself in a romantic relationship that is considered friendly:
1. Realize the true alignment of roles in relationships. If you are reading this text, then most likely you already understand who is who.
2. Understand all the pros and cons of this situation for yourself and for your friend (or girlfriend). What do you and the other side get? And most importantly, what are you both receiving less in this relationship?
3. Decide for yourself if you want to change this relationship. Everyone gets their own from such relationships, but they also lose a lot. For example, the side in love is deprived of the opportunity to openly love and take care of a loved one.
4. If you have made the decision to open the cards, be prepared for a sincere conversation and tell about your feelings. After this conversation, your relationship will never be the same. They can become loving, they can become really friendly (this also happens after a sincere conversation). Also, the relationship can end, because it can be very difficult for a person in love to hide their feelings, pretend or not realize their desire to build a close relationship.
