Each person would like to be surrounded only by friends and well-wishers, but in real life events do not always correspond to desires. Many people have enemies and ill-wishers, and a difficult question arises before them - how exactly to treat their enemies, is it worth taking revenge on them, or, on the contrary, is it worth forgiving them? Forgiving an enemy is not an easy task for most people, and yet you can learn to forgive even people who have done bad things to you.
Instructions
Step 1
Forgiveness can be divided into four main stages, each of which you must go through. In the first stage, step back from the situation that has occurred, take a break and relax. In the second stage, cope with your own desire to take revenge or respond to the enemy - refrain from punishment. In the third stage, try to get rid of the negative experience and relive it. The last stage is forgiveness itself. Basically, you just diminish the importance of the event that happened and forget your enemy.
Step 2
For many people, the first stage is the most difficult. It is not easy to disconnect from a situation that offends and resent you - but it is possible. Take a break from someone you don't like. Stop loading yourself with negative information - just forget about the unpleasant event and take your mind off it. Find strength on the side, get carried away with something else, enjoy life.
Step 3
Refraining from punishment is also difficult - try to piece your feelings together and control yourself. Understand that punishment will not benefit you or your ill-wisher - it only inflames an already ongoing enmity.
Step 4
Think about what will happen if you forgive the person and stop caring about how to take revenge on him for the insult. Find patience and compassion in yourself, channel your energy into a positive, not destructive, channel.
Step 5
At the last stage, it is not at all necessary to become a friend to your enemy. It is enough to let go of the situation that happened inside yourself, make it unimportant for yourself, forget that this person did something bad to you. Stop replaying negative memories inside - you should also throw them out of your memory.
Step 6
Place the negative event as far away within your memory as possible and consciously stop thinking about it. By making a conscious decision to forgive the person and end the apparent dislike, you are thus showing your strength and human dignity.
