A person who holds negativity in himself spoils his own life. It is pointless to accumulate resentment and worry for a long time that you have been upset. Work on yourself and take control of your emotions.
Instructions
Step 1
Try to be simpler about negative events in your life. Perhaps sometimes you are dramatizing the situation and attaching too much importance to annoying little things. If any careless word or lack of proper attention makes you resentful for a long time, this is not normal. Be objective. Consider if the event that bothers you is really that important or if you are making your life difficult.
Step 2
Limit communication with those individuals who constantly offend and upset you. Refuse meetings with unpleasant acquaintances, avoid close contact with inappropriate colleagues. This way there will be less negativity in your life. The mood will improve. Unpleasant moments will not get stuck in the memory. If at the same time you let go and forget past grievances, life seems to start anew. You will feel incredible inner freedom.
Step 3
Don't expect too much from people. Maybe you have a very good opinion of some individuals and any deviation from the image that you have created in your head really hurts you. Do not idealize others. On the contrary, prepare yourself for the fact that people can be in a bad mood and are angry, rude, aggressive and tactless. There will be no disappointments - there will be no big grievances.
Step 4
Think about why other people's words and actions hurt you so much. Maybe you have too low self-esteem, and any phrase that could be misinterpreted reminds you of your flaws. No wonder, then, that you remember the bad for so long. However, this is not about the people, but more about yourself. When you yourself understand and accept, then someone's assessment will not mean too much to you. Be honest with yourself and decide if you sometimes think out for people. Perhaps they did not mean anything bad, and you, because of self-doubt, were offended by ordinary words.
Step 5
Learn to throw out negativity. This is necessary for both your psychological comfort and physical health. Negative energy received from others can be directed in a constructive direction. Do some physical work. You will see how much the matter will argue, because negativity is a great force, you just need to use it correctly. Of course, it is better not to take on any grievances from outside at all. To do this, you can use one of the visualization methods, for example, imagine that all unflattering words go down the toilet, or that a solid wall is built between you and the offender.
