Constant dissatisfaction with others significantly impairs the quality of life and can lead to nervous exhaustion and social isolation. To end a series of conflict situations, it is worth lowering the bar of requirements in relation to other people and more often evaluating your own emotions, thoughts and actions.
Instructions
Step 1
Analyze the reasons for your anger. Perhaps you are angry that your friend, colleague, loved one, etc. did something wrong as you wanted? Or did you fail to do something that, in your opinion, should have been done? In this case, answer yourself the question: why do you think that someone must certainly meet your expectations? Remember that each person is different and has a worldview that is different from yours. What is most important in your value system may be far from being in the first positions in him. And this does not mean at all that he is worse than you.
Step 2
If a fit of anger has taken possession of you in relation to your own child, calm down first. Remember that you, too, were once the same age and made mistakes and blunders yourself. Do not shout at your son or daughter, you will not achieve anything. If the child is still too young to have meaningful conversations with him about good behavior and good learning, try to teach him a lesson in the form of a game about cleaning up toys, eating healthy porridge or not doing things that can be dangerous for him. health.
Step 3
Keep in mind that anger and screaming are unacceptable when raising children of any age. If you feel that you cannot cope with negative emotions, leave the apartment, take a walk, ask someone from your loved ones to be with the child. With the frequent repetition of such situations, reconsider your daily routine, perhaps you are too tired, your everyday life is boring and monotonous. Involve your spouse or relatives in the upbringing of children and housekeeping, pay attention to yourself.
Step 4
If you are in a bad mood, do not seek to recoup someone from others, engage in the search and elimination of the reasons that provoked it. Remember, too, that anger is very bad for the health of the cardiovascular and nervous systems. If you experience strong negative emotions, your heart rate increases significantly, tachycardia and arrhythmia may occur, the level of adrenaline and norepinephrine rises in the blood, the blood flow in the brain is redistributed, the pupils dilate, and the skin becomes hot. It is not uncommon for people to have heart attacks and strokes at the peak of negative emotions. Therefore, the next time you are going to be seriously angry at someone, remember the possible serious consequences at the physiological level and change your anger to mercy.
Step 5
Develop a positive outlook. Remember that those emotions that you send outward will definitely return to you. If you do not want to live in a constant war with others, become more tolerant, loyal, kinder, take into account the fact that perfect people on Earth simply do not exist, so it is foolish to demand that a person be perfect in everything.
Step 6
To cope with a particular outburst of anger, stop feeding it with your own negative thoughts. No matter how difficult it is for you to do this, get yourself out of this situation, switch to some other activity. Watch your thoughts and emotions, don't let irritation rule you.
Step 7
Stop the verbal skirmish with the one on whom you pour out anger, for this, breathe deeply, try to count to yourself to twenty, etc. Stop a controversial telephone conversation or leave the room in which there is a conflict, go for a walk. Do not go over the details of the quarrel over and over again in your head. Give yourself an attitude - "I'll think about it tomorrow", the next day you will most likely have a completely different assessment of what happened.
