Sometimes the feeling of shame spoils a person's life. He torments himself with thoughts of his own wrong and is tormented by his guilt. Don't worry about a mistake for a long time. Find the strength to forgive yourself.
Take out a lesson
Believe me, no life path is complete without mistakes. If you have done something wrong, it is important to take the experience out of the situation. Analyze the current situation. Think about what reasons influenced what happened, and what you could do differently in the future if you had a similar situation. You should be reassured that you correctly assess what happened, see the cause-and-effect relationships between individual moments and know how to avoid this in the future.
Adjust your behavior. For example, if you accidentally hurt someone's feelings, work on yourself to become a more considerate and considerate person. In the future, you will try not to offend anyone. If you say too much under the power of negative emotions, learn to control the manifestation of your own feelings. You will become a more reserved person and will no longer show your negative emotions. Remember to sincerely apologize to the person and try to fix what you did.
Once you work on yourself and change for the better, the anxiety that sometimes accompanies shame should go away. You will feel more confident and relaxed. After all, sometimes the feeling of guilt consists in part of the fear that you have crossed some line, that you are not as positive a person as you thought you were. Get your faith back, don't let frustration take over.
Forgive yourself
Don't over-dramatize the situation. Don't exaggerate the scale of the disaster. Be objective, don't screw yourself up. Try to calmly consider how this situation may affect your future. Maybe you will see that in fact nothing terrible has happened, and the situation will not have much effect on your life.
Imagine that the unseemly act was not committed by you, but by your close friend or loved one. Consider whether you would be as critical of his behavior as you would your own. You may be too hard on yourself. This could be due to low self-esteem, high demands and expectations from oneself. Don't push yourself so hard.
Maybe you feel shame where you don't need to. Accept your personality, get rid of stereotypes. Find inner freedom. For example, to bare your feelings, to show your weaknesses is not a shame. You have the right to be who you are. Another question is whether it is worth giving people the key to control you by pointing out their own shortcomings. But shame is clearly unnecessary here.
Learn to forgive yourself. Be condescending. Love and appreciate yourself. Take your right to make mistakes for granted. Don't try to be the perfect person, that's impossible. Be realistic, objectively assess your capabilities and abilities. Sometimes you should admit that you have some flaws, and learn to live with them. Understand that this is the best way to be in harmony with yourself. Otherwise, the feeling of guilt will deprive you of peace and the joys of life.
