In hindsight, people sometimes feel regret that they did something wrong, said the wrong words, or remained silent. Often this feeling becomes so strong that it begins to poison a person's life, contributes to the growth of self-doubt.
Instructions
Step 1
Take a look back. Try to remember all the actions you regret. Analyze them - why you did this and not otherwise. Chances are, you have strong arguments to justify your actions. For example, you regret that you have chosen the wrong profession that you wanted. Every day, going to work, you torment yourself with the thought that you have made a mistake and are forced to do an unloved business. Remember why you made the decision to go to another educational institution: because of the prohibitively large competition that you still could not pass, or because, while studying at the desired university, you would not have the opportunity to earn money and help your family? Make your decision and stop beating yourself up, instead focus on the benefits of your current job.
Step 2
If possible, try to correct your actions. This act, whatever the consequences, will help ease the burden of regret and push you into action. Ask forgiveness from the person you offended, confess your feelings to your loved one, etc. Thus, you will complete a certain page of your life and stop dwelling on it.
Step 3
Regret, in addition to causing negative emotions, can also have a positive effect. Remember your actions and firmly associate them in memory with this feeling. In the future, when you want to do the same, the thought of this action will cause a feeling of deep regret, which will undoubtedly return after what was done.
Step 4
Psychologists believe that regret is most characteristic of maximalists - those people who strive to achieve the ideal in everything. That is why they often torment themselves with what would have happened if they had acted differently. Such people should come to terms with the fact that they cannot return what they have done, but be sure to save this experience for the future.
