Any envious person, emotionally unstable person, or chatterbox who cares about your person can upset a great relationship with family and friends. To prevent this from happening, remain confident, calm, and keep your mouth shut.
Instructions
Step 1
Do not allow yourself the luxury of telling people you barely know the details of your personal life. This is especially true of colleagues at work, who undoubtedly claim a certain level of trust, because you "spend so much time together." In fact, your revelations can become a topic for gossip at lunchtime or, even worse, grow into contrived stories that can play a cruel joke on you.
Step 2
Be careful with your criticism. It should be supported by strong arguments and should not constitute an insult, but an observation and remark. If the need to criticize someone's behavior or work is unavoidable, start by stating the positives, gradually getting to the heart of the problem. For example, "I appreciate your hard work, but there is a significant error in this report …".
Step 3
Know how to say "no" to those who think they have the right to manage your personal time. Among them, most often there are talkers, overly emotional people, constantly busy individuals who shift their worries onto your shoulders, as well as whiners who cannot live a day without a vest for tears. Try to explain to them that you, too, may have business: "You are a great conversationalist, but from time to time I need to focus on the project, so let's get back to the conversation in two hours (the day after tomorrow, in a week)."
Step 4
If you have to deal with an irritable person who likes to quarrel, work to stay calm and not get angry in return. Under no circumstances raise your voices to a scream, otherwise you will not only become a target for letting off steam, but, possibly, a real enemy that they want to get rid of. Ignore the hurtful words, and instead use a powerful psychological trick: the next time your boss or a friend raises their voice at you, imagine covering the screaming with an insulating glass cap.
