Nothing foreshadowed trouble. And suddenly someone opened his mouth and said such things about you that resentment, annoyance and irritation seethed in my soul for several more days. The brain did not tire of going through the options for brilliant answers that, alas, came to mind too late. A familiar situation, isn't it? To avoid the hassle next time, theoretically prepare yourself for such moments in life.
Instructions
Step 1
Understand that sometimes a person says nasty things not out of harm, but out of stupidity. Moreover, this happens not only with adolescents who are not yet familiar with the rules of good manners, but also with very mature people. And worst of all, you can expect unpleasant statements from loved ones. Well, you love them anyway. Find the strength to forgive. Use phrases psychologists call "self-messages" as your answer. For example, “I am so offended to hear this”, “My soul felt so bad after your words”, “I feel offended”. If a person loves you too, and this is probably the case, he will "hear" you and apologize.
Step 2
In a situation with close relatives or friends, to defuse the situation, resort to self-irony. Say, for example: “I don't like boors. Why do I need competitors? " or "You can say any nasty things about me, anyway I know more!"
Step 3
If a person who is not very attractive to you said something nasty: a colleague or a neighbor in the stairwell, do not show how much you are offended by unpleasant words addressed to you. Seeing his victim wounded and annoyed - this is what the offender wants. So don't give him or her that much pleasure, keep your composure. There is no need to burst into an angry tirade, and even more so in the literal sense of the word rush into the attack.
Step 4
If you are witty and can quickly figure out how to be sarcastic in response, use this quality to its fullest. In this case, the more naturally your remark will be said, the better. Take an example from the great woman who lived at the turn of the 18th-19th centuries in France - Madame de Stael. She was once given such a "compliment". The ugly and stupid young dandy, who took a place in the theater between her and another woman of the world, decided to flatter them, saying: "I am between intelligence and beauty!" “Possessing neither the one nor the other,” added Madame de Stael with a smile.
Step 5
If, on the contrary, you are one of those people who cannot quickly think of what to answer, you do not need to babble something inaudible in embarrassment. Better remember the universal phrase that will be useful in a variety of situations: "Having said nasty things, you said it about yourself."
