Melancholic people tend to look mysterious, distant and cold. By their outward calmness, one cannot say about the storm that is raging inside. They are very vulnerable, so even one wrong word or action can break all the bridges that you managed to build in communication with him.
Instructions
Step 1
Learn to understand melancholic people, although this is very difficult. They are most often closed in their world, and you have to make a lot of efforts to gain their trust.
Step 2
Maintain a certain distance between you. Melancholic people don't like it when someone invades their personal space, so keep your distance from them. Try not to touch their things without asking, because they are also very jealous of them.
Step 3
Monitor your speech and intonation carefully. Try to avoid ambiguous phrases, because melancholic people may not understand you correctly and take offense. They observe your behavior very closely and draw conclusions. Even if you take a quick glance at your watch during a conversation, the melancholic may think that you are bored with the conversation.
Step 4
Speak not too quickly, clearly and to the point. They do not like lengthy speeches about anything: do not get distracted from the topic. Talking too long makes them tired, they feel tired and want to be alone. Do not impose your society if you feel that the person wants to be alone. Never criticize or speak too harshly about him.
Step 5
Observe his gestures and movements: they will help you understand what the melancholic is not saying. A sign of excitement, irritation or dislike can be his nervous movements, for example, he will twirl a pen in his hands or thoroughly wipe the countertop. If he straightens his hair or smoothes his hair, then something is alarming him.
Step 6
Be patient and do not rush things, let the melancholic open up himself at a speed that is acceptable to him. Try to be kind to him, show understanding, empathize, and try to cheer him up. When he opens up in front of you and begins to trust, you will be able to appreciate his large inner world and get a good, faithful friend.
