An outcast is a person who is rejected by society. All his attempts to re-enter his social environment end in one scenario - he is rejected again. Why does a person fall into the role of an outcast and how can he get out of this role?
When a team rejects a person
In every collective, rejection of someone occurs in a different way. At school, it can be ridicule, insults and even physical harassment, in adult groups, rejection can take place in the form of sophisticated disregard, when there seems to be no outright neglect, but one person feels very bad, and everyone else, as if by agreement in advance, play their role.
An outcast becomes one in whom most of the people around him begin to see what they reject in themselves. These can be qualities such as insecurity, lack of success in the profession. However, it can also be any qualities that it was in this team, for some reason, were prohibited. For example, the boss does not like fussy employees or those who like to take the initiative. If he can spread his mood to the rest of the team, then an employee who has such qualities can become an outcast and endure many negative moments in relation to others.
Or another example. There are collectives in which an atmosphere of ambition reigns. Members of such teams set difficult tasks for themselves and for each other and are very proud when they manage to implement them. If a person who is deprived of this quality falls into such a team, he can become an outcast due to the fact that others will not be able to respect him and will see in him what they would not want to see in themselves - the lack of desire to achieve anything in life.
Thus, in most cases it turns out that they become an outcast in relation to a certain group. If the same person ends up in another community, where the qualities that are inherent in him are not rejected, he may feel quite good there.
Sometimes in children's collectives those children whose parents take too much care of them and constantly control their lives become outcasts. Also, the reason for rejection may be some feature that the collective does not accept - illness, character trait, belonging to any social stratum, poverty, or, on the contrary, material security.
In this case, you need to analyze what values are inherent in this team, what qualities are rejected. After that, you need to understand what qualities a person who has become an outcast shows. If this contradiction is insoluble, then it is necessary to look for a new team, or build relationships based on this information.
When a person rejects others
However, it also happens that a person becomes an outcast in almost any collective. This is a completely different situation. Here you need to understand what qualities in a person make him an outcast.
First, such an outcast may initially deny many of the values that the collective professes and show their disrespect in some of the statements and actions. This, in turn, is reason enough for rejection.
Secondly, each member of the community performs some function, does something useful for him. The outcast, on the other hand, refuses to invest in the team. He is focused on himself and on his opposition. By this he himself provokes others to rejection. How can you accept a person who rejects himself?
Thirdly, an outcast may simply not be able to build relationships with society due to their characteristics. If such a person does not respond to impulses from others and withdraws into himself, not having the ability to build a dialogue, then he can also become an outcast.
In life, to become an outcast, a person does not need the manifestation of all factors at the same time. One or two is enough to get rejection. In the first case, when a person denies the values of the team, the reaction of those around him can become the most harsh. Whereas in the latter case, if there is simply an inability to build a dialogue, then rejection will take on a milder form.
Thus, it is necessary to understand the reasons that led in each particular case to this problem, so that they can subsequently be corrected.
