Man is a social being. He cannot live guided solely by his instincts. Everyone has their own thoughts and experiences. The way we see ourselves in the world around us, the way we assess our capabilities, largely determines all our actions. Self-esteem plays a big role here, but how to define it?
Instructions
Step 1
Agree that your behavior and internal state largely depends on the environment in which you are, on the people around you, on the attitude of these people towards you. It's easier to start with low self-esteem. Analyze when and under what conditions you feel insecure. Try to be in such situations as often as possible: educate yourself.
Step 2
Pay attention to how you feel about yourself during any setbacks. People with high self-esteem often shift their failures onto the shoulders of other people, thereby completely removing any responsibility to themselves for the failure that happened. In this case, try to identify for yourself those aspects that could be implemented by you in order to avoid failure and answer the question why you did not. If there is an excuse for everything, then, most likely, self-esteem is overestimated. People with low self-esteem begin to get upset, scold themselves. Pay attention to what exactly you are telling yourself, what exactly you do not like in your actions, why you are scolding yourself.
Step 3
Pay attention to how you respond to criticism. If your self-esteem is overestimated, then criticism is most often taken with hostility, with a clear lack of interest and a desire to end the conversation as soon as possible. Low self-esteem is different. A person listens to criticism and unquestioningly agrees with its negative moments.
Step 4
Self-criticism is critical in defining self-esteem. It is perceived by people more effectively than the comments of strangers. Criticizing yourself, you will understand that some part of you is saying all this, which means that she is definitely right. If you often criticize yourself, are constantly dissatisfied with yourself and think that someone else would have done everything much better, then your self-esteem is below average.
