In situations where you are deliberately pissed off, it can be difficult to stay calm. By reacting negatively to the interlocutor, you can make a mistake. The provocateur does not care how you feel, he will not take it to heart, and, most likely, will quickly forget. And your emotional state will suffer, so do not give in to anger and irritation.
Instructions
Step 1
Take a deep breath and try to count to yourself to 5 or 10. This is difficult to do when emotions are high, but over time, this technique will allow you to control the state at the time of provocations.
Step 2
Try to answer your interlocutor calmly, laugh. Thinking of a joke or funny story will defuse the atmosphere and relieve your own tension. Smile at your "provocateur". This will disarm him much more effectively than your shout defending rights or offended dignity.
Step 3
Learn to breathe properly. If a person becomes angry, his heart rate increases. Get your breathing back to normal, sometimes just taking a few deep breaths is enough.
Step 4
Be wiser. Remember that you are the smartest, most serious, judicious person. This will help suppress negative emotions and assess the situation more soberly. Be condescending to what is happening.
Step 5
Don't transfer your anger to others. Try to be distracted, if it doesn't help, sign up for a gym, buy a punching bag. Having contained your rage at the right moment, you need to throw it out later. You can do push-ups or just focus on a hobby. By resorting to this, you will not allow conflict and maintain your inner peace.
Step 6
Put yourself in the shoes of a provocateur, it is possible that his problems will seem insignificant to you. Think your troubles also don't make sense to someone. By insulting a person, you can provoke a long protracted conflict. So hold back and think about something distracted. At work, think about what you will cook for dinner, and at home think about the unfinished report and the upcoming planning meeting.
Step 7
Dream. Imagine how you will take revenge on the offender in detail, you can offend him in your thoughts, hit him, make another nuisance. Get rid of the presence of the provocateur - go somewhere on business, go for a walk in the park. Move away from your fellow traveler if the conflict has occurred in transport.
Step 8
Can't help it? Let your aggression show up externally. Do not allow shouts and insults, answer calmly, but sarcastically, or in such a way as to hurt the enemy's pride, but in no case raise your voice and maintain an even intonation.
