I want to share with you the continuation of my client's story, which began in the first part of the article of the same name.
Now, at the consultation, the outwardly same man sits in front of me, but he behaves differently, he sits and speaks no longer from the position of a victim, but from the position of an adult, conscious man who is responsible for all his actions and words. He sits and holds on in a completely different way, with his shoulders straightened, freely, without tension. It is very interesting for me to observe how he changes from consultation to consultation, grows and matures. He talks about his victories, victories over himself and others, about the fact that something else did not work out, but he tracked and analyzed it.
A few of the victories of my client, after our consultations:
- The understanding that his mother loves him and expresses her love as best she can (this was an insight for him that made an indelible impression on him! But this understanding did not come at all right away, we made our way through many obstacles).
- Talking to mom is no longer annoying.
- He no longer feels guilty about talking to his mom.
- He became more confident in all his actions.
- He began to feel more confident in general and in general, in everything.
- He learned to say "No" when he didn't feel like doing something or was busy.
- He learned to discuss with a counterpart when he doesn't like something.
- He understood and accepted that each person perceives the same information in different ways and therefore everything needs to be pronounced - he learned to communicate with students not from the position of “an all-knowing teacher with dunno”, but from the position of an adult who can explain how this is done, why and why.
He got rid of all his grievances, which he carried in himself all these years (Svetlana, I have a void inside, instead of grievances, what should I do with this now? - the client asked me). We worked with grievances for a long time, he did not want to let them go, the shore was afraid to part, but now he is happy from all the changes that have occurred with him. At the first consultation, all his stories and emotions were black and white, everything he described was heavy, motionless, somehow not alive. Now all his emotions, stories, thoughts are colored, he describes them in colors, very easily. Here they are the colors of life, he saw them!
