Alcoholism is a fairly common mental illness. Constant intoxication negatively affects health, well-being, work capacity and moral values of a person. In addition, alcohol is addictive and therefore incompatible with a healthy lifestyle.
The influence of the drinker on the life of the family
As a rule, the alcoholic stubbornly denies his addiction and believes that there is no problem at all. Over time, emotional closeness between spouses disappears. The addict's behavior becomes illogical, and sudden outbursts of aggression begin. A man may even resort to physical violence. Intimate relationships deteriorate. A woman ceases to trust her husband, who is unable to take responsibility for his actions. And the most difficult thing in the current situation is for the children who live in this family.
How to learn to live with an alcoholic
If your man is addicted to alcohol, you must make a serious decision: live with him in constant fear or start a new quiet life without him. If you decide to stay with such a husband, you need to know how to behave. Here are some tips:
Try not to argue with the drunkard or enter into discussions with him. Avoid quarrels and reproaches. If you are calm and unperturbed, anxiety will start to take hold of him.
Do not threaten the alcoholic if you are unable to do what you say. He probably heard a lot of threats in his address and easily recognizes the uncertainty in your voice.
Do not hide alcohol or empty the contents of bottles. Controlling the addict's behavior will not work, and trying to do so will prevent you from staying calm.
Be honest, and when a man asks why your attitude towards him has changed, tell him directly what the reason is. Do not be afraid that he will leave you. Do not try to hold him back if he threatens to leave. Even if he leaves home for a few days, he is unlikely to be able to live without a family.
When all relatives, colleagues and friends stop sympathizing with the drunkard and begin to move away from him, he will understand that you were right about his illness. In such a difficult moment, you need to provide him with support. He will feel your love and listen to your advice.
Very often, the group confrontation of loved ones leads the alcoholic to an understanding that he needs to be treated.
Already on the first day after an important decision to start treatment, you will notice positive changes in his personality. The patient will wake up understanding of reality and exactingness towards himself. Watch his behavior carefully, because during this period the man is on the verge of breaking down.
Consult with your husband and together choose a treatment for alcoholism. Much will depend on the personality of the alcoholic, his condition, current life, past experience and social status.
You should not trust the fate of your husband to various "hypnotists", "grandmothers" and "sorcerers". It is much safer to turn to modern narcology, which can really help.
The most important thing is that the man himself wants to get rid of his addiction to alcohol. Try to interest him in new activities or return to the old ones. Believe in the best and your family will find peace and harmony again.
