Hysteria adorns no one. Of course, there are situations in life when it is very difficult to restrain yourself, but you need to learn to overcome negative emotions. Learn to deal with outbursts of irritation. If someone says or does something that makes you angry, don't respond right away.
Instructions
Step 1
When the person who made you angry is around, count to ten and try to understand what happened and why you are angry during this time. While talking on the phone, politely say that you cannot talk now and have the other person call you back later. If there is a hassle on the Internet, before writing a response post, have a coffee or do something. Taking a break will give you time to gather your strength and formulate a calm response.
Step 2
If a loved one provokes a conflict, think about why he is doing it. It is possible that he is just trying to get your attention. This is very common for children when they feel abandoned. But a husband or wife can behave in the same way. Give your loved one the attention they need in some more peaceful way.
Step 3
Take a look at the problem under discussion from the point of view of your opponent. It may well be that he is right, not you. If so, admit your mistake.
Step 4
When discussing an issue of principle and knowing for sure that you are the one who is right, find such arguments that can convince your interlocutor.
Step 5
Try not to think all the time about what has hurt you. Get distracted by hobbies, walking the dog, going to the movies with friends. Various household chores help a lot. Even if you feel really bad, a polished chandelier will make this world a little better.
Step 6
Soberly assess the capabilities of others, as well as your own. First of all, try to see the positive sides of the people close to you. It is quite possible that in this case their shortcomings will become invisible to you and will cease to annoy you.
Step 7
Your own shortcomings should not oppress you. Try to fix the ones that can be corrected. But remember that it is impossible to be ideal in everything. Identify several areas in which you can become a true professional. Make it clear to your loved ones that if you are not very good at making soup or do not understand classical music, then you are great at sewing and find a common language with all the children who come your way.
Step 8
When faced with failure in an area in which you consider yourself almost an expert, do not be discouraged. In an activity for which you feel capable, all failures are surmountable, you just need to make some effort. Problems in "not your" area should not affect your self-esteem at all.
