A person is visited by a variety of feelings: from bright and positive to heavy and dark. And they are not always appropriate, and sometimes they are simply impossible to bear. This is especially true of guilt, envy, anger, resentment. Since the excessive manifestation of feelings interferes with a harmonious life, it is necessary to learn to cope with them.
Instructions
Step 1
The very first and most important thing to do to a person who is overwhelmed by vivid and uncontrollable feelings is to admit to himself that they are. In no case should you drown them out, ignore them, or hide them from yourself or others, but simply admit their presence.
Step 2
Next, you need to understand this feeling. For example, you may be tormented by a feeling of anger and want to deal with it. Analyze where it came from, what exactly caused this reaction in you. Perhaps someone did something wrong, maybe you made a mistake somewhere and are angry with yourself. Be sure to find all the true participants in the chain, then the situation will become transparent, and you can resolve it.
Step 3
Further, having understood who and what did wrong, speak up. For example, your best friend told you a taunt, you are resentful and depressed. Talk to him. Don't blame, but tell him how you feel. The best way to deal with feelings is to throw them out, not in a negative way, but in a peaceful way. All the energy of this feeling should go towards creation, not destruction.
Step 4
If there is no way to speak to a person, talk to yourself out loud or describe in detail your feelings on a piece of paper. Such therapy is very effective in the fight against feelings, since no one and nothing suffers, except for a notebook sheet, and the effect is palpable. You throw off unnecessary steam, calm down and free up space in yourself to find a way out of the situation.
Step 5
When the heat of passion has passed, but the feeling itself remains inside, try to direct it to something positive. For example, paint. If you are in love or, conversely, hate, try to paint your feelings. What will they be, what color and shape? What will be the name of this feeling, and where does it go? You can come up with a story or fairy tale where your feeling will be the main character. Having come up with a vector of development for him on paper, you will be able to manage it within yourself.
Step 6
Visualization can help you deal with just about any feeling you don't want. This method is similar to the previous one with the only difference that you need to portray your feeling not on a piece of paper, but inside yourself. Try to physically feel its shape and texture, color and location, how it moves and where, what it wants. When you answer these questions, start changing it. For example, if your shame was colored red, try coloring it green and trace your feelings. You can also "drive" this feeling out of yourself by imagining how this object itself comes out of your lungs, decreasing in size. The very work with the body and sensations will improve your well-being and focus on ways out of the situation.
Step 7
Try jogging, rollerblading, cycling, or walking around town all day. Physical activity makes not only your body move, but also the intangible that has settled inside you. Accordingly, your feeling will not remain like a stone on your soul, but will change, develop, move into other forms, and, perhaps, they will turn out to be more acceptable and pleasant for you.
