There are so many people in the world who both look great and do their job successfully, but do not believe in the compliments of others. They constantly tell themselves that they will not be able to cope with the task at hand. Low self-esteem is to blame. Because of her, very talented people cannot realize all their energy and potential. To fix this, it is important to know what adequate self-esteem is and how to get it.
Instructions
Step 1
Are you familiar with this situation: you dream of doing something, you are filled with enthusiasm, you think about what a great idea you have created and how great it will be to bring it to life. But one negative word from friends, relatives, and even a stranger destroys all your plans. You start to think that the idea is, in fact, stupid, and beat yourself up for it. Sound familiar? In this case, in order to raise self-esteem, it is important for you to make it a rule to make decisions on your own and unconditionally implement them. If your plans come true in the best light - great, you coped with the task and were able to achieve this regardless of the opinions of others, what is not a reason for pride? If it turned out not what you planned, it only means that you are bolder than others, you took a brave step and next time you will take into account all the shortcomings of your decision. Experience is also a positive result that is worth raising your self-esteem, not remorse.
Step 2
One can speak about adequate self-esteem only when a person really knows his own worth, knows all his strengths and weaknesses. He is not tormented by the thought that he is not talented enough, not competent enough. He develops and improves, instead of pondering his shortcomings. Don't try to compare yourself to others. There will always be a musician, actor or work colleague who will seem more successful to you. You need to look at more talented people only in order to learn something from them, but in no way to belittle yourself. Try to assess your pros and cons in a sensible way, you can even make a list of them. Develop your skills and abilities.
Step 3
An unhealthy social environment is often the cause of low self-esteem. If the people around you like to conflict, criticize you and belittle all your actions, why do you need such communication? It should be comfortable and guide you in a positive direction. It is better to distance yourself from people with whom you are always uncomfortable. If this is not possible, talk to them, try to find a compromise. Remember that our environment shapes us and our character.
Step 4
Another circumstance, already mentioned above, but worthy of special attention: do not scold yourself for failures. Praise yourself for your achievements! Remember how often in your life you were helped by the feeling of shame or self-flagellation? Constant thoughts of failure are the basis of low self-esteem. Remember, you are an individual, a unique personality, you can reach the desired heights only when you believe in yourself and reveal your potential. You will succeed!
