Many people dream of changes in their life. And they must be positive. But in order to change the reality around you, you need to work first of all on your thinking. Only by giving up unnecessary character traits can you change your life.
Much depends on thinking. There are beliefs, thanks to which a person grows, becomes more successful and happier. However, negative attitudes are enough. They need to be identified and erased from your life. If thinking does not change, then life will remain the same.
Victim mindset
First of all, you need to stop blaming other people, circumstances, politics, parents or boss for your own mistakes. Almost all people face this mistake. Why do we blame others for our own failure? Because it's easy. He took off responsibility and can do nothing further.
You must learn to take responsibility for your own life, try to change it if something does not suit you. There is no need to change the whole world. This is a daunting task even for great personalities. But changing your thinking is a goal that everyone is able to cope with.
Defeating Bad Relationships
We are used to parting with loved ones because of any failure. We give up the relationship even if nothing critical has happened. And again, we blame not ourselves for the failure, but our soul mate. But this is a road to nowhere.
It is necessary to overcome such negative feelings as resentment, irritation, anger, dissatisfaction. First, you need to do everything possible to keep the relationship. Love is the daily work of not one person, but of both partners. And if someone in the relationship began to "slow down", take offense, then the second needs to set an example and find opportunities for a peaceful solution of problems.
Avoiding bad mood
Our success is directly related to our attitude. You cannot move up the career ladder, achieve success in the financial sphere, and build strong, stable relationships if chaos and hopelessness reign in emotions.
It is necessary to learn to get out of negative emotions. Nobody says that we must completely abandon them. It's too complicated. But don't live in the negative. Learn to let go of negative emotions.
Discard the comparison
At the present stage, we constantly come across success stories, photographs of people near large houses and expensive cars. And looking at all this, we begin to compare ourselves with more successful people. But this is a road to nowhere. You can spend your whole life watching others and feeling envy, self-loathing.
Comparisons never end. Therefore, they must be abandoned. You don't need to delete Instagram from your phone, block the Internet and lock yourself in your apartment. Such drastic measures are useless. Just learn to be calm about someone else's success.
Give up swinishness
You can endlessly be surprised by the fact that in other countries the streets are clean. There is no garbage in the entrances, in parks, or in the forests. Or you can just stop piggybacking in your country, in your city.
Learn to keep your home clean. Clean up the balcony, throwing out all that unnecessary trash that has been accumulating over the years. Learn to throw pieces of paper, cigarette butts, packaging from a variety of goods into trash cans. For some reason, many are unable to cope with even this simple task.
Several important victories
- Find money. It is very pleasant to take a winter jacket and find 100 rubles in one of the pockets. Do not spoil the moment by remembering that you yourself put them in your pocket. Just celebrate this little victory.
- Defend your point of view. It's nice to feel right. It is doubly pleasant when others admit it. This moment must be enjoyed.
- Come up with a biting answer. They say nasty things to you, but you only understand in a day how exactly you should have responded. Many have faced this situation. This is a staircase effect. And it is very pleasant when the biting answer was invented and voiced instantly. This is victory!
- Found a good parking spot. In modern conditions in large metropolitan areas it is very difficult to find a place where you can park. If you still managed to find the ideal place for the car, this is a victory that must be celebrated and recorded.
- Catching an object falling off the table, or an object unexpectedly thrown at you by one of your friends, is a victory, thanks to which your self-confidence is significantly increased.
Conclusion
You need to be able to notice insignificant victories on your life path, rejoice in them, congratulate yourself. You can even come up with a victory dance or compose a heroic song. It is important to focus on the positive, throwing away all the negative.
