It is often possible to observe how a competent and intelligent person with a pleasant appearance speaks, but very few people listen to him, or even completely interrupt. And sometimes someone cannot connect two phrases, but those around him listen carefully. How to force yourself to listen?
Instructions
Step 1
The person being listened to is clearly respected in the team. It is safe to say that he has the same feelings for himself, and the audience feels it. Self-confidence that does not turn into self-confidence, combined with passion, is very attractive to others.
Step 2
It is not only what you say that matters, but how you do it. Learn to grab attention with your voice. The problem with many smart people is that they speak in exactly the same key, while those who are ecstatic to listen to, constantly play with their speech.
Step 3
Playing with the voice consists in regularly raising and lowering it, in changing the tempo of speech, timbre of the voice, as well as in constantly raising and lowering intonation. The human ear is designed in such a way that it reacts particularly actively to the changing vibrations of sound.
Step 4
Unexpected and significant pauses will make you pay attention to the speaker, even those who have been distracted for a long time. The expectation of upcoming words will increase, as well as the likelihood that what is said will be perceived better.
Step 5
Move in space, while changing the source of the sound. Any action you take will attract attention, and, accordingly, you will be listened to. Is it interesting to follow the statements of someone who sits in the same position all evening and does not move? Most likely, this person will come across as squeezed and strange.
Step 6
Even if you prefer to stand or sit while talking, remember to change your posture. When making a speech, lean your body forward a little or turn towards the person to whom you are speaking.
Step 7
Use gestures and facial expressions, because this is the strongest weapon in attracting attention. When explaining something, make smooth movements towards yourself, as if you are luring the audience.
Step 8
Show your whole being interested and, at the same time, calm. To do this, help with your hands, emphasizing individual phrases, but at the same time keep your hands relaxed. Emotions on the face should be vivid and constantly replacing each other, but not tense, so as not to resemble strange grimaces.
Step 9
Keep your gaze open, calm, and interested. Pick one person for yourself and speak while looking at him, or look at a distance. But in any case, do not run your eyes over each listener, this is distracting and annoying.
Step 10
Touch, although not always appropriate, plays a significant role in communication. A light pat on the shoulder followed by a hold on the hand, a light hug, a handshake - these habitual manipulations build a trusting bond between people. But try not to become familiar, all your gestures should be overflowing with friendly tact and respect. In this case, people will delightfully listen to you and, who knows, maybe even quote.
