We are offended, we are offended. Conflicts often arise from scratch. And not always during a quarrel, we say hurtful words, because we want to say them. I just want to make it unpleasant, and that's it. In response, insults are also poured in. And then comes the understanding that it was all in vain. And you need to put up, forgive each other.
Instructions
Step 1
To begin with, it would not hurt to understand the cause of the conflict. You should think about what became the direct source of the quarrel. It might even be funny. Try to put the reason for the misunderstanding on paper. This is necessary so that you yourself clearly understand what the matter is.
Step 2
Let go of negative emotions. Exercise will help you with this. If possible, run a kilometer or two. Or rock your abs. Double use and noble energy output. A TV is also suitable for this purpose. Yes Yes. Watch the chronicle of emergencies. This is a "therapeutic" way to deal with stress.
Step 3
Put yourself in the shoes of your abuser. Look at the situation from the other side. Perhaps he did not hurt you out of malice, just, for example, he had another choice. Of course, if the quarrel was intentional, with the aim of offending you, no one asks you to justify this act. Our goal is forgiveness, and you are not doing this for someone else, you are doing this for yourself.
Step 4
Go to reconciliation first. Why accumulate negative emotions in yourself, why spoil yourself from the inside? Take the first step. This is the act of a wise and confident person. After all, if there is a possibility of reconciliation, you should do it yourself. Only we ourselves can help ourselves with this.
Step 5
Try to think about the good things that connect you to this person. After all, as a rule, we strongly take offense at people close to us, and no one holds an offense against an unfamiliar person for a long time.
Forgiving isn't that hard actually. You should abandon the negative and fill the empty space with positive emotions. Remember yourself after reconciliation. What a feeling of lightness and calmness overtakes us. After all, we humans all make mistakes.
