Under the guise of fear of failure, there can be many other fears, small and large. Certain character traits, life experience, parenting style, personal attitudes, traumatic events - all this also often feeds the fear of failure. Among all the variety of reasons, the most common ones can be identified. What are they?
Fear of being wrong. As a rule, such fear can come to a person from childhood. Once he took a risk, took a step, and the consequences were unexpected. Parents or someone from the inner circle was extremely dissatisfied. As a result, already in adulthood, a person is afraid to do something, already setting himself up in advance for mistakes and failure.
Negative personal experience. This moment flows smoothly from the fear of making a mistake. Any traumatic situation in the past, the negative experience received had an undue effect on the person. People who tend to take everything as close to their hearts as possible, experience any event extremely emotionally, as a rule, are more likely to experience fear of failure.
A tendency towards perfectionism. Perfectionists follow a line of behavior in which they either do everything perfectly or do not do it at all. Often, perfectionism coexists with procrastination, with laziness and is closely related to the fear of mistakes and unsuccessful consequences from any deed or deed.
Personal settings. A person can cultivate negative markers in the mind on their own. Or they are formed due to outside interference. So, for example, if in childhood the parents constantly insisted that nothing worthwhile would come of the child's idea, an attitude appears: "it is better not to take risks, it is better not to do it." Against the background of it, immediate fear begins to develop, often completely unfounded.
Low self-esteem. People who do not value themselves are prone to self-blame and self-flagellation. They have a painfully low self-esteem, they try to avoid situations when they have to decide on something serious (or not so). They are too confident that they are not good for anything. Again, low self-esteem can be the result of personal attitudes, toxic / improper parenting, and so on.
Reluctance to leave your comfort zone. When a person lives a measured, quiet and calm life, at some point he loses any ability to do anything, to develop somehow, to strive somewhere. He becomes very comfortable in his cocoon that he does not want to change anything. Step outside the comfort zone creates an excessive fear of failure, which ultimately leads to the fact that the person remains in place. He stumbles, lives without spark and interest, but he is comfortable and there is no reason for any worries.
Certain character traits. Shyness and indecision, increased conformity, lack of appetite for risk, self-absorption, detachment from the outside world, a tendency to fantasy and illusion, hypochondria and suspiciousness - all this can lie behind the mask of fear of failure.
Lack of vitality. If a person is faced with a serious task, but he does not feel either internal motivation or sufficient strength to carry out the business, then he will most likely abandon his idea.
Concentration on the opinions of others. There are people who are madly dependent on what others say or think about them. The fear of failure in this case is reinforced by the idea that in case of failure, everyone will laugh at the person, that they will begin to condemn him or even despise him altogether. Such people, for whom - in addition - it is extremely difficult to make decisions, make choices, are constantly in tension, look around at everyone around and on their own, voluntarily fertilize the soil for nurturing various fears, worries and worries. In the same reason for the fear of failure, the idea is concentrated that under an unfavorable coincidence of circumstances, a person in the eyes of other people will suddenly suddenly cease to be good, worthy, correct, successful, attractive. As a rule, all such fears have no real basis. But for a person with increased anxiety and with similar views, it is almost impossible to realize this.
Benefit from the fear of failure. There are also individuals who receive some benefit by cherishing their inner fear. What can it be? For example, in the fact that at some point they will no longer pin hopes on such a person and give him any responsibility. Such a person, hiding behind fears and fears, can to some extent make his life easier by not doing what he really does not want to do. The benefit from the fear of failure in each individual case is unique, much depends on the character of the person and his outlook on life.
