Even poison can be beneficial in the right dosage. In excessive - even something super useful is harmful. More often than not, excesses are bad in everything. However, the difficulty is that sometimes indicators with the prefix "too" and "too much" come into vogue, and people begin to strive for the maximum in everything, which, after a certain limit, simply crosses out the good that is. It’s actually a good way to get away from problems: improve on something that’s already okay, rather than focusing on where it really needs to be tweaked and corrected.
Harmony criterion
There are many important things in life. What's the most important thing? How many people, so many answers. But everyone will definitely find it difficult to single out one thing. Is it possible to find such a "one", which, even if brought to perfection, will be sufficient in itself for complete human happiness? Of course not. There are many important things in life, and the inner state, which is usually called happiness, depends on the well-being of each of them and the harmony between them.
Find a link
Quite often it happens that disorder in some area of life, dissatisfaction in it, prevents you from enjoying the good that is. Therefore, it is so important at each specific moment of different life stages to understand what now deserves attention in the first place. The pitfall here can be the following: it may be too painful to look directly at the "damaged link" of your life chain. Instead, we can enthusiastically tackle the improvement and modernization of something that doesn't really bother us, but why not? After all, where is the limit to perfection. And this is exactly the case that falls into the category of "the best is the enemy of the good." For example, another shopping in clothing stores will cheer you up - but if everything is in order with the wardrobe, and the question of the postponing start of repairs is tormented, then it will be very, very short. The more important to us the aspect that affects the problem situation, the more resistance can be caused by the intention to pay attention to it. It's like with a bad tooth - you don't want to pull out, but if you pull, it will only get worse. You need to stop thinking, but just take it and do it. Thanks in advance for yourself that you take on something that is so difficult for you at the moment and at the same time necessary.
Horizontal instead of vertical
It's amazing how many things we do in our life just out of habit! We are not trying to introduce something new into it. No, who would agree with this? Doesn't someone like new products? We go and buy a new generation TV, taking the old one to the trash heap or taking it to the dacha. We are purchasing the tenth jeans of the ultramodern model. We change the iPhone to an improved one. What do we turn on of that is really new to us? Adding serum to the use of the cream does not count. We are so accustomed to essentially monotonous vertical movement that we do not even check how much joy and satisfaction it brings us. It creates a feeling of some kind of "movement forward", we do not feel backward, "worse than others", and that's enough. Whereas how much greater wealth and much more powerful improvements await us in just one horizontal step! A TV of even higher definition is by and large the same TV, and we will get used to its slightly better picture quality and will stop noticing it in two days. The joy of such acquisitions and "innovations" is short-lived, because they do not bring anything new into our life in essence. While changing your habitual way of life, both associated with shopping, and not, can very much change both the world and self-awareness! Do you wear trousers all the time? Try skirts and dresses! Always get your nails done in the salon? Try it yourself! For your morning coffee, wander aimlessly on the net? Try reading the handbook atthe topic you are interested in - for example, I am very attracted by such publications as “Everything about everything” and “Biology. Man. Grade 9.:)
It is not without reason that so much attention is paid to the issue of the comfort zone in various sources. Everyone walks in their own way, the same circle at a certain time site. Of course, this circle can be cleaned, painted in a different color, and that's great. But this does not compare with expanding it, because the world is so big! Moreover, it is in those places where it is too narrow for you (and for you).
Maximum - in balance
Why do we buy into the relentless proposals to improve what we are already doing well? Try the best shampoo, buy something for a better promotion, prefer even sweeter sugar instead of sweet sugar? As already mentioned, this helps us to distract our attention from what really needs to be corrected and what is not very pleasant for us to look at. And also - we like to move forward. Develop. Following the passage of time, the growth of achievements and the development of new technologies, try what happens as a result of this. But the best is, in fact, the enemy of the good, precisely because when we do not pay excessive attention to one of its areas in order to avoid meeting with others that are no less important to us, our happiness. Perhaps you need to make very little effort, but exactly where it is needed, and at the most suitable moment for this. As a result of this change, your whole life changes! The balance is restored, harmony reigns. Seemingly incredible miracles? How can something improve on its own when completely different problems have been solved that are not related to this topic? It's very simple: by itself, or almost by itself - with a little help, which will cost you nothing without the oppression of the main troubling problem, poisoning the emotional state, which now - hurray! - resolved.
A crown to the whole business
Leo Tolstoy wrote in "Anna Karenina": II ne faut jamais rien outrer, which in French means "You should never go to extremes in anything." Total limitation is no better, it is the other side of the same coin. Psychologists say that in families where alcohol was completely banned, children were much more likely to become dependent on it in the future! In those, where they were taught the correct handling of alcohol, taught moderation, problems in the future arose much less or did not arise at all. For whatever reason, the magic of moderation - or lack thereof - works the same way. There are very different examples. Unhappy children, whom, out of the best intentions, their closest people mercilessly forced to go to endless museums, read many books when they did not want to, and who were uninteresting or incomprehensible to them, often by the time they grow up, they completely lose their "appetite" for such things! They are literally fed up with them for life. But how sad..! Both books and museums can greatly enrich life and entertain the creature of the human race.:)
Measure with your own measure
Speaking of moderation, measure and balance, one cannot fail to speak of individuality. “The taste and color of all markers are different” - everyone has already ceased to be offended by the lack of understanding of the differences that different people have. “There is a buyer for each product”, there is nothing to worry about. It is fashionable to be an individual, it is fashionable to be oneself, and we all have already accepted ourselves as we are, or with might and main on the way to this. Why then do we ourselves forget about these differences, taking care of ourselves and our lives? We forget that what other people need may be premature for us. Or it may not suit us at all, because we have different situations, because we are different people. Probably the starting point of all the mistakes of the pursuit of not what you really need, is forgetting who you are. Your strengths and weaknesses. Those areas of your life where everything is good with you, and those where not so much. It is as if we are trying to be someone else: “I want it too,” “I want it too,” “I will buy the same one”. Probably, such a reaction stems from the child's desire to be no worse than adults, as well as the desire to merge, the need to be one with someone, and therefore the same as him. But this is not true. We are separate and we are different. And if we keep this in mind, it will become much easier to measure by our own yardstick, helping ourselves and encouraging others to do the same.
