A teenager … Not a small child, but not yet an adult. Explosive, uncontrollable, unbalanced - it's all about them, about teenagers. An affectionate and attentive son suddenly turns into a prickly cynic in front of his parents.
Such a transformation causes confusion among loved ones. Parents are frightened by the deliberate rudeness of adolescents, they do not know how to properly communicate with a teenager, how to react to their defiant and shocking antics. It is necessary to understand that the rudeness of a teenager is a kind of defensive reaction that allows him to hide his weaknesses, overcome shyness and awkwardness.
Parents in this difficult period must stock up on extraordinary patience and show miracles of wisdom. To maintain a sincere dialogue with your child, you must try to hear it. After all, the most vulnerable, vulnerable and defenseless member of your family is your own teenage child.
How to communicate correctly with a teenager if it seems that all the strength of the parents is simply running out?
- Draw a mental boundary between your emotions and words to maintain dialogue and peace in the family.
- Show restraint and do not respond to the rudeness of the teenager with parental rudeness, do not go to shouting and do not allow assault on the teenager.
- But the rudeness and rudeness of the teenager should not be taken for granted by the parents. He must clearly understand that the deprivation of his pocket money or the ban on attending a disco is a direct consequence of his inappropriate attitude towards adults. Otherwise, his abusive behavior will seem normal to him.
- If the child behaves defiantly when communicating with you, then invite him to postpone the conversation to a later date. Let your child calm down, cool down and reflect on their behavior. You will also have free minutes to meaningfully prepare for the upcoming conversation.
- Parents should not at all switch to youth slang in order to gain credibility with their child. An easily injured teenager may see this as an attempt to insult, ridicule. And the consequences of a teenager's reaction are impossible to predict.
The difficult teenage period will pass, like everything else in this world. The most important thing for parents is to be able to maintain a warm and trusting relationship with a teenage child who will very soon become an adult.
