Tears are an outpouring of our strong emotions. Many people do not like to be seen crying because they do not want to appear weak. And, perhaps, it will be unpleasant for anyone to cry in front of a rival or offender. For such situations, use the suggested methods to learn how to hold back tears.
Instructions
Step 1
Abstract The Situation As soon as you feel that emotions have taken over you and tears are about to pour out of your eyes, imagine that this whole unpleasant situation did not happen to you. Close your eyes. You sit in the cinema and watch a movie. Focus on the picture. The same situation occurs on the screen that just happened to you, but now you are not a participant in this situation, you are a spectator observing everything from the side. Gradually, the color picture fades and becomes black and white, and then begins to decrease in size. So it shrank to half the screen, now to a quarter, and finally, completely turned into a small dot. This method is based on the knowledge that we are crying because we are emotionally involved in the situation. However, as soon as you stop taking the situation to heart and take the position of an outside observer, the tears naturally recede. The method has been proven many times and is practically trouble-free.
Step 2
Have pity on the person who offended you When we are wronged, we cry out of self-pity. The essence of this method is to turn off this emotion. Think about why the person hurt you. Perhaps he is doing much worse than you, and he is just jealous of you. Perhaps his boss just scolded him, and he experienced fear and humiliation, which he could not resist and ripped off at you. Even if you have no real excuses for the person who offended you, try to come up with them. The main thing now is to hold back the tears, you will think about the rest later.
Step 3
If the reason for the tears is not that you were offended, but simply in the nerves, try to calm down The most effective way is to slowly count to 10, while breathing slowly, taking a deep breath, and exhaling just as slowly. When you have a little deal with your nervous tension, drink some safe sedative: tincture of motherwort or valerian.
Step 4
What you shouldn't do in any case If a person publicly ridiculed you or offended you with some kind of sharp phrase, even in private, and you did not find an answer, you can guarantee that within the next hours all you will do is invent worthy answers on the lines of the offender and … cry. The fact is that while you return to what happened again and again, you are emotionally fixated on this situation and feel natural anger at the offender and self-pity. It is not easy to cope with yourself, but it is still better to postpone thinking about what happened at least the next day, when the strongest emotions have already passed. And it's never too late to come up with a decent answer!
