Tears are a great way to relieve inner tension, give vent to negative emotions, and in many cases crying can be very beneficial. But there are times when showing weakness, vulnerability, or anxiety is losing. How to hold back tears if you can't cry, but you really want to?
Instructions
Step 1
The first thing to do is try to calm down and distract yourself a little. Take 10-15 slow deep breaths, concentrating as much as possible on the breathing process. Sometimes this is enough to keep you from crying.
Step 2
Try to "shift" your attention. For example, remember what is written in your passport - on all its pages (last name, first name, patronymic, date of issue, registration address, and so on), count the buttons on your interlocutor's clothes or stripes on the carpet, repeat the multiplication table by seven.
Step 3
The most common reason for "wet eyes" is strong, uncontrollable emotions. And one of the ways to keep yourself from crying is to “switch” from mental suffering to physical suffering. Chopping off your ear, like Van Gogh, is, of course, superfluous - it is enough to pinch yourself hard or bite your tongue or lips. This is a pretty effective way to hold back tears and revive yourself.
Step 4
If the reason for the tears is resentment against a particular person, try to mentally redirect the emotions you are experiencing from yourself to him. For example, if the boss did not give you an undeserved dressing, do not feel sorry for yourself. Better to get angry with her … or find something to feel sorry for (and her nerves are useless, and her climax is soon, and her haircut is unsuccessful). Or you can mentally laugh at the offender - put on a clown costume, turn him into a crow or a frog … Anything - if only the feeling that this person poses a threat to you personally disappears.
Step 5
In order not to burst into tears immediately after a conversation, drink half a glass of water or non-hot tea (slowly, in small sips), and wash with cool water as soon as possible, or at least wipe your face with a damp cloth. And immediately be distracted by any business that is not directly related to what almost made you cry - this will help you consolidate the result.
